How long of a sexual dry spell would it take before you did something stupid?

Good point. Company may be more what one seeks.
Besides, there’s enough evidence that people may do… well… ***unwise ***things in pursuit of sex, without there having to be a prolonged “dry spell”. Hi there, Governor Spitzer; how are things, President Clinton?

In any case it’s not as if I’ll spontaneously combust for going without.

And the example provided by Bricker simply leaves me shaking my head and assuming the person in question did not really try to get over it.

Well, it’s been over 8 years for me. I don’t think I’ve done anything stupid yet.

(OK, I’ve done plenty of stupid things in that time. Just none related to having sex.)

Well, a 14-year dry spell did not cause me to do anything stupid. I’m not saying it was great for my sanity, though.

Well, it’s been around 6 years haven’t cratered yet (I’m a woman). I haven’t ever been tempted, it’s just not worth it.

If I ain’t done something stupid yet, I’m pretty sure I never will.

6 years? 8 years? 14 years? Amateurs.

It’s been almost 3 years since I did something that could be called “stupid” - won’t go into details, other than I haven’t spoken to this person again, thought I’ve seen him around. I’m tempted, though, because it’s been a long dry spell and I’m lonely. Problem is, the acquaintance I’m attracted to now is much younger than me, and I’m too embarrassed to do anything about it, plus I’m scared that he’d laugh in my face or some other thing would happen to ruin any potential friendship between us. So I keep my mouth shut and hope my one-sided attraction (and thus the urge to do something stupid) goes away. I feel so pathetic, like one of those older women you sometimes see at bars in low-cut blouses and caked-on make-up, waiting for last call. :frowning:

I apologize for the self-pitying tone I’ve taken with this post. All right, move along, nothing to see here…

I’ll let you all know when the statute of limitations runs out . . .

I had dry spells longer than 3 years, and didn’t do anything even remotely stupid.

When I was about 19, probably about a week, but I was going through my wild stage.

I put never.

No I have done many stupid things but not for lack of sex.

I’m going to define “stupid” as risking pregnancy.

I’ve recently gotten back together with an ex-, from a long time ago, but I don’t consider that to be stupid at all. It’s been almost 20 years for me, and seven years for her. She’s been adamant that we aren’t going to use condoms, so she’s looked into getting an IUD. That was supposed to happen yesterday, and tonight was to be “The Night.” Unfortunately, there were complications… she got herself The Patch for the meantime, but now we have to wait another week.

Thus, I chose “never.” We’ve made it this long, we can tough it out one more week… as unbearable as it’s becoming. As luck would have it, there are other ways we’ve been able to service each other in the meantime… :slight_smile:

My honest answer is ‘I don’t know.’ I haven’t gone without sex for longer than two weeks since reaching adulthood. Now that I’m in my late 40s, I’ve noticed, as has my wife, that my sex drive has diminished somewhat.

I’m pretty sure I’m past the stage in my life when I’d do something stupid for sex but, as stated above, I’ve never been through a dry spell of any length, so who knows what the heck I’d do if I were suddenly single and had no prospects?

I guess I’d have to pick never. I’m in a dry spell right now because my husband is deployed, but I would never cheat on him. If I wasn’t married, then I think I could find a reasonably appropriate sex partner pretty easily when I got horny, which would be pretty darn fast. But I don’t really consider NSA sex to be stupid, so…never, I guess.

A male, 34 YO, I haven’t even made it with a chick for like four years since my ex-wife and I split. I’ve done plenty of stupid stuff, but nothing stupid. I enjoy the anhedonistic lifestyle and hardly ever grind on strange women I find riding mass transit. I’d advise any man considering the lifestyle to read lots of Ignatius and get very much used to separating the laundry before laundering. The whites from the colors, or something.

I originally thought the OP was trying to bait us into saying “going to a prostitute” is stupid. (I see now that’s not the case) Which I’m OK with in theory, it’s just the couple of times I’ve done it; it was less than spectacular. I should’ve just beat off to porn instead.

I’ve done lots of stupid things in the name of sex. But sadly, I don’t have to go through a “dry spell” in order to do them. This may also have something to do with my copious use of alcohol too tho’. :smiley:

I did something -way- out of my comfort zone to get rid of my virginity after more than two decades.

Things went better than expected.

Harness me up alongside Shakes, no dry spell required.

It was ~ 3 decades for me (puberty to last year), and I never did in fact do anything stupid. But mostly through lack of opportunity - no crazy or gold digger type lady noticed me. A friend said to me two decades ago that he feared I’d take up with the wrong kind of woman out of desperation - didn’t happen, fortunately.

I like your post! but I have so many questions…

Anhedonistic lifestyle? Can you elaborate?

Read lots of Ignatius? Ignatius Loyola?

Laundry? You are intriguing me.

Voted in the 2 weeks to 6 months… but I should note that Bricker left the definition of stupid well open… and that professionals are legal in my jurisdiction. :slight_smile: