How many dates does it take to know if you have chemistry?

[Elendil_s_Heir]

@Really_Not_All_That_Bright

Well, he spilled his manhattan on them.

Oh, I’m sure that was a “mistake.”

[DivineComedienne]

@Sudo_Intellectual

I
I tried to convince myself that I was just afraid of a good thing. (I may be somewhat of a commitmentaphobe). I kept going out with him, even kept having that good night kiss (although nothing else) for probably 5 or 6 dates. I finally came to the realization that it wasn’t something that was going to go away. There was no chemistry and although he was a great guy, he wasn’t the great guy for me.

And how did you explain this to the guy, after 6 dates? How did he take it?

[Cat_Fight]

@DivineComedienne

We had drinks at the bar, then he asked me if I had eaten. I was honest and told him that I usually suggest just meeting for a drink in case we don’t like each other, we have an “out” And he laughed, and said we could split the check if I felt better about that. We ended up just having appetizers at the bar.

I know, in true Dope fashion, five people will say just the opposite, but this is the only way this sort of thing has ever worked for me – mutual acknowledgment of what a silly, potentially awkward situation you’re in and slightly cruel humor!