I’ve already been over this with my friends. I am no fool and I know the answer to the question. But with dating, you’re confusion can be tough to deal with until everything straightens itself out, and opinions can help with the process. Anyway, here’s the situation.
I went on two dates with a girl from online dating (i’m mid twenties). First date was great. We went to two bars, watched a movie, made out. Awesome date. She said let me know if you wanna do it again. Second date was close to this past Xmas. I was going away and told her we either get together in the next couple of days or will have to wait until after Xmas and New Years. She invited me to a show she had to go to for school, and then we’d get a drink after for an hour before she had to run off to practice for something (she is a busy person). I agreed. We had another great date. I walked her to her train at the end and she kissed me (which I did not expect after such a quick, harmless date), and said to text her when I got back. I did text her and she told me she was away for New Years at a wedding shower and we’d talk when she was back. I texted her a couple of days after New Years. She said she was feeling sick and work had been going crazy. I told her I’d get in touch after a couple of days. Days later, I asked again how she was feeling, (it was four days later), and again she said still shitty and work was just nuts. I then laid it out there: I said, it looks like you’re not gonna be free, am I just not taking “the hint?” She said, “ha ha, no no, it’s been a rough week.” I said I would try again to ask her out, if it was okay with her, because I had a lot of fun on our first two dates. She replied, Me too. I said, good, talk to you soon.
Now before I end this, I will say again that I know the answer. I was planning on waiting a week, let some time pass, and ask again. If I get the run around, then I move on, if not, then great. I know the conventional wisdom is that if she wanted to see me, she’d make time, the excuses, blah, blah. But at the same time, all the other signs point to her just being busy, and I find nothing in her actions to suggest she’s just afraid to tell me (she even said on our first date that people who aren’t honest about not wanting to go out are just assholes). So what do you, message board responders, have to say? It helps me just to read opinions. We connected very well and I haven’t had a girlfriend in quite some time. I’m lonely is the thing here.
