37 yo old female. I had one boyfriend in my 20’s, just to see what why boyfriends were considered worthwhile (he was interested in me, and I thought he was good-looking). That was a disaster. I later tried marriage with a second guy, but quickly found out that it required work, compromise, patience, etc. We were married for five years, and once it was over I felt so liberated.
I have occasionally felt I should go out and try dating, but each time I do I recoil from the idea that my full allotment of free time is no longer entirely mine to do with as I please. I’m not always in the mood to interact with people, and I prefer the flexibility to be alone whenever I want to be alone.
I’ve only been in what amounted to almost a relationship that was based on nothing tangible, and only lasted a few weeks. I’m now 41, and, like jz78817, I’m not much to look at and no fun to be with.
I was with a girl for about two months, and spent most evenings with her. I consider that a relationship, though I honestly wasn’t that into her, and she apparently felt the same way by getting herself knocked up by another guy while we were still together.
I’ve been with other people over the years, but that’s the closest I’ve come to an actual relationship, and I’ll be 30 in about eight months.
I’m 28. I’m an aromantic asexual. So, obviously I’ve never been in a relationship, although I am not completly closed down on the posibility. Probably won’t happen though.
Well, if this were around 1980, I would have ticked “male, 20-29, never”, but things have picked up a bit since then. I was very socially maladapted and had some trouble interacting with people until sometime in my mid-20’s. Since then I’ve had one highly rewarding long-term relationship and a bunch of shorter flings, and have a few solid female friends. I’ve been on my own since 1998 or so, but that’s really by personal choice.
does having accepted a number of short (two weeks to six months) involvements with very sick and abusive individuals who would want to use me for sex and other things count as relationships? sometimes I hope yes, and sometimes I hope not… please someone define relationship - a “good” relationship, or just any?
Male, 47. I’ve been in two short relationships, each about 4 months long. No further prospects at the moment; I gotta fix a few things first, like getting more work…
