I think that more than any other aspect that people lie about their sexuality the most.
Thus, I always request that the woman have a STD test first & show proof of it. Lots of guys say they have tests; but don’t prove it because the woman doesn’t ask for the proof.
There are tons of STDs, just an HIV test isn’t enough. I always get an all around test, which tests for just about every std.
The question has come up “Why many?” and immediately, a flip and glib reply sprung to mind, but after a seconds thought, it seemed less unreasonable. It is this: People have many things in their lives that they have multiples of, why should sexual partners be excluded from this?
Hear me out, here.
People have many different shoes, shirts, CD’s, spices and/or colognes. Why? Because they, at one time or another wanted to try something new. See how it felt. Or perhaps they liked the way it looked. People date many other people. Does the act of sex differentiate that much from just maybe kissing or spending countless hours discussing personal beliefs and practices? This is more a discussion of where somebody’s weighted value of sex, be it moral or faith or other, is a factor. If y’all want to get into that, (which doesn’t seem to be the case, yet) fine, but please not here.
I’m still wondering if the women of the group have a number they consider or are the female Dopers beyond that phase of asking the information, as others have noted some folks are?
-=-=-FTR, I’m not equating sex to shoes or spices (well, maybe spices 
), just drawing the multiple comparison point-=-=-
Perhaps a concrete example will help. I offer the following statistics about myself:
I will be 27 years old next week.
I first had sexual intercourse when I was 17 years old - we were both virgins.
I have been with 21 women during these last 10 years.
Of the twenty-one:
6 were strictly oral/manual encounters
1 was a virgin
11 were with women I was “dating” – more than two dates
6 were long-term girlfriends
5 were a one-time deal, only 1 of which I didn’t see again
9 were friends of mine but who I never really dated
10 attended college with me
4 attended high school with me
2 were at the same time, 1 of which was a long-term girlfriend
1 was my college roommates younger sister
2 were married to other men at the time
5 remain good friends with me to this day
4 would probably prefer not to “run into me” again
4 of them I was truly in love with
1 is my fiancee
Now, based on this, in your opinion… am I a slut?
Please be honest.
Reservoir, I’d say “no,” but then again, the question is really for the women to decide. Does your fiancee know and if so, did she ask or did you volunteer the info? Then, what was her reaction?
I’m guessing it was favorabel, or else she wouldn’t be your SO.
Before I met may current partner, and soon-to-be spouse, I had slept with about 80 men since I lost my virginity at 18.
Some of them I slept with for mutual physical gratification.
Some of them I slept with to see how much training I would have to give them if we got to the point of a relationship.
And a few of them were to keep me from getting desperate and getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons.
I don’t think any expression of physicality is bad in any fashion as long as it is consentual and honest. I’ve never said ‘I Love You’ to get laid, nor have I made any promises beyond that moment. I’ve never slept with anyone I did not spend some time getting to know first, and I’ve never kicked anyone out of bed directly after and made them go home.
Our society is very judgemental and has some very rigid rules about sex. Many of these rules create unhappiness.
Why not do what feels right rather than doing what everyone else tells you to do? Peer pressure should be left back in high school where it belongs.
Virgins aren’t much fun. You tongue kiss for eight hours and then try to touch them down there & its NONONo!