I’ve just been dragged, kicking and screaming, through this situation recently. I fell for my best friend, he found out, he didn’t reciprocate, we had a huge argument that got blown all out of proportion, and we are currently trying to make up. But there are a lot of nasty, weird, painful feelings from both sides that are getting in the way.
For instance, recently he let me know that he had feelings for me a few months back (before he found out about mine), but decided he’d rather be friends than anything else. Had he told me this a while back, it would have been much easier for me. I don’t know, it’s looking up but I definitely won’t do it again. Or if I do, I’ll leave the goddamn country.
No, I don’t think so. Many romances are with “friends”, maybe the woman in the next office, who you may have lunch with a few times before you actually date, or someone who you have mutual friends with, and meet, then fall. The OP refers to people who you knew for a longer period, maybe a year or longer, who had a friendship that had no romantic overtones, but then things changed… maybe you had never both been free at the same time, then you were, went out as friends, and realized you were treating it as a date. and it wasa good date…
Sara - the guy’s a jerk who doesn’t know what he’s missing out on.
We were best friends for almost two years. I was not single at the time. Neither of us even considered it until I got single again. Even at that point I had to hit on him pretty hard. Now it just seems like the most natural thing in the world. Life is a lot of fun with someone who likes the “me” part of me, not just what I look like or what they think I can be like.
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We were very good friends for about a year, then best friends, and now we’re dating.
I had a boyfriend at the time I met this person; my boyfriend at the time broke up with me partly because I talked about the new guy too much.
It took me a while before I was convinced that my friend really liked me though. I thought it was too good to be true. We’re still best friends. It was certainly weird at first, though.
(This sounds so saccharine to me. Normally I’m not this mushy.)
Now it just seems like the most natural thing in the world. Life is a lot of fun with someone who likes the “me” part of me, not just what I look like or what they think I can be like.
We’re still best friends. It was certainly weird at first, though.