I think I’m over my limit. I’m at 5 right now. It’s very trying and stressfull. However, I’m feeling to wimpy to break it off with anyone. Does anyone have good suggestions for breaking it off with at least one of them while keeping the lines of communication good.
Also answer the subject. What is your max?
oh god I hate netscape. Mod(s) can you fix the title? please. It should read “How many people can you concurrently date?” thanks.
Quite honestly, I usually have my hands full with one woman. I couldn’t for the life of me imagine juggling five. Especially with the lying and making up excuses that must accompany all this. How DO you keep this up?
I can’t thats the problem. That’s why I need to bring it back down to 1. Truthfully though there isn’t much lying. The 5 thing just started last week. Before that it was 3. That was going on for about a month, before that it was only 1 for the past year.
Oh, if I could only have this problem. I am very lucky if I can get 1.
Just thought I would tell you that i dated four guys at once a few years ago. It was really hard, and they all knew, but never again…never…one is quite enough…
I would say get back down to one, it’s a lot less headaches.
I’d say you need dumping criteria. These could be anything from IQ to breast sixe, of course 
Yeah, I know, I’m trying to get back down to 1 but, it’s just so hard. I mean what if I pick one and she turns out to be all wrong and I should have picked a different one or something. ah well, I’m sure it will sort it self out.
On the plus side I resisted the temptation to try and get Wacky Ninja to be number 6. 
Whoo hoo!
But really, think about your reasons for being with them, other than hottness, and it will be easier to choose.
Oh I do. I mean 3 of them are hotties. One of them I’m probably definetly going to dump.
I think my main criteria will be level of wine and food intake, quality of said food, and the way they treat homeless people.
I know it sounds strange, but I can’t stand people who aren’t empathetic to others problems.
And once I get it down to 1 or 2 I can start shamelessly flirting with Wacky Ninja.
It doesn’t sound strange at all, and you will probably have it narrowed down to one sooner than you think…
For my sake I hope it’s soon
<I’ll start my shameless flirting now>
It’s 3 right now. I dunno, for me female relationships are like walking the dessert. Nothing for months not even a wayward glance in my direction then I hit an oasis and it’s booty central.
You don’t have to lie. If any of them asked me flat out I’d tell them flat out, but there’s no need to say to one of them, “This really cute girl and I went out last night and just when things were getting really hot and heavy if you know what I mean…” It’s bad taste, just like you don’t bring up ex’s on a first date. I’m enjoying every minute of it, it’s hard work but I don’t sleep alone as much.
One. That’s about all i can handle. Just one. I’ve done the date every woman i run into thing and it got to be just so bad. I was forgetting who i told what, and names were just escaping me.
One.
…such a beautiful number…
Do they all know about each other OS? Are you having sex with them all?
Main drag with your setup is eventually youll have 0.
A good resource on how to handle multiple relationships can be found in “The Ethical Slut”, by Eastman & Liszt. Available at Amazon. (I don’t know how to post the link without blowing out the formatting.) I think it’s quite good, though my opportunities to field test its advice have been regrettably limited.
Ha ha ha
I’m recently single, so I have a head start.
I’ve done five. I don’t think I’ll repeat it, they were amiable and even knew each other, but you know you are done when its relaxing to sleep by yourself.
One should be perfect. If it isn’t try several. Honesty is the key.
I dated seven concurrently but each knew about each other and I was not having sex with any of them. That was just my two rules for it. It was stressful, nothing like being out for a day-date with one only to get home and rush around getting ready for the evening date with the other. I finally found my current bf and broke if off with all. It worked out fine except for two guys who apparently felt way, way stronger for me than vice versa.
No they don’t 3 are pretty recent. They don’t no know about each other though. I haven’t yet really lied to any of them about other relationships. I don’t want to. But, if any of them starts getting more serious I’ll have to make a desicion. I’m pretty fucking stretched. I’m having sex ith 4 of them. With the last 1 we will probably ave sex this weeked.
On a plus note, I think I’ve narrowed it down to two prosective final choice. It’s really fucking hard to pick between those two though. Arrrgh.
Oldscratch: On behalf of frustrated single men everywhere, “I desperately hate–but very much admire–you”. And I wondered where they all went to…
Really, though, how on earth can that work? I think can think of at least a few women who would flat-out stab me in the chest if I ever tried anything like that. How about setting up a footrace? Or maybe a battle royale?