I am 34 years old. I have no kids, no ex-wives, no ex-fiancees, no restraining orders, no large debts, no serious diseases, no physical malformities, etc.
Also, I am educated, gainfully employed, and reasonably attractive (at least I’ve been told that, ask somebody from the recent ChiDopeFest if you doubt).
I know of one other person over the age of 25 who can also make these claims. How rare is it? Anybody else out there?
Am I a normal guy who hasn’t found the right gal and also hasn’t fallen for Ms. Not-so-right? Or, am I some kind of social misfit?
The one person I DO know who can make these claims is female and single and we have had occasional trysts but never a serious romantic relationship. I’ve known her for 15 years or so.
I have a male friend who got married but his wife had a complete mental breakdown and ended up in a mental instition within 3 months of their marriage (marriage, a new high pressure job, and some deaths in her family combined to stress her mind past the smapping point). So, his baggage is minimal. I would be interested in hearing from others with minimal baggage.
I’ve got an ex-fiancé and a shoulder injury but other than that I’m equally clean. Mind you, I’m desperately hoping to buy a house and join the landed poor. And maybe get a dog.
There’s lots of people like us, we’re just invisible because people who have little to complain about are not very interesting to listen to.
I think “baggage” is a subjective thing. I’ve experienced a couple of things a lot of people would describe as baggage if it happened to them, yet I am fine. Why? Because I made a conscious decision to let it go. Baggage just weighs you down, and is a way of letting someone or something use your mind without paying for the privilege. Who needs it?
I think baggage is only “baggage” if it affects your behavior to some degree. By this standard, I now have no baggage. It was nota always that way.
Baggage is a loaded term, but It’s hard to believe that anybody doesn’t have some to some degree. Can you really say that there isn’t a song that makes you spend rest of the evening thinking melancholiclly you of a girl in high school that wish you would have done something differently. Have you ever seen a guy who you couldn’t help but dislike because he reminded you of the biggest asshole you have ever known. Basically my deffintion of baggage is something in your psyche that prevents you from dealing with some new situation objectively. Like the other posters have said it’s good if none of it effects your life, but everbody has something that is triggered by situations.
As long as you don’t ask me about high school. And there were some bad times in college. And yeah those first few relationships sure didn’t go anywhere yet ended badly… Hey, can I get porter over here?
I’m 48. I’m single, have no ex-wives, no kids, no ex-fiances, no restraining orders, no large debts, no serious diseases, and no physical deformities. I’m educated and gainfully employed. Reasonably attractive? Well, apparently not. I’m 4’11", and it’s clear that I can’t attrat a girlfriend to save my life. The last time I had a series of dates that might have lead to a girlfriend was 10 years ago. From all this you might conclude that I have no life, and I suppose you’re right.
30, divorced, two kids-joint cutody, some debt(exacerbated by G-D playing Job with me in the last month), yeah I’ve got baggage. but it’s manageable, I have strong arms so I can carry it just fine.
