Yeah. Its supposed to be fun for both of you; you don’t want to become her Stairmaster.
…cause then she’ll hang clothes on you.
I last had sex when I was 39, I’m now 50, so yes you are having too much sex.
Please stop.
Now.
Actually, it sounds like you do.
Gotta give to get, after all.
Early 30s here, and it wildly fluctuates from 2 to 10 times a week. Grant that I also have a 1-yr-old.
I found this
* 73% of Americans aged 57 to 64 reported being sexual active
* 53% of those aged 65 to 74 reported being sexual active
* 26% of those aged 75 to 85 reported being sexual active
at Senior Sex
Seems fairly compatible with Kimera’s post #13. I note in it that married men and married women were reporting reasonably close figures.
I am surprised at the low percentage of the 65-74 group. I didn’t see a definition of sexual active. I am sure it is depressed by the unmarried. By That age, many men have died off leaving the women ferer opportunities. Also, many men can no longer function. I think the sales of Viagra revealed there was a bigger problem out there than much was said about. Looking around at the people that I know that age, most couples both partners are still alive.
I’m 34, married and to be honest it’s about once a week at the moment. I’ve certainly noticed my sex drive go way down recently, and the thought of doing it every day just exhausts me. Can’t remember the last time I “flew solo” either.
Mind you, we have a got a three-month-old baby.
No bragging, but if I am in the upper percentile yippie me! My wife has been wonderful and I really appreciate her “dedication”. I truly believe that she wants to have sex often however I know that there has been the occasional sympathy boink (wife just looked at the monitor, told me to replace “sympathy boink” with “pity boink” Isn’t she wonderful?) . But, I would think that is what one does in a marriage. There have been times when I have been simply too tired and have because my partner wanted to.
I just found the whole “how many times is too much/little” to be quite fascinating. I tend to feel that I am lucky in my situation. My ex wife had a much different attitude about sex. I always felt it was something she had to do vs. something she wanted to do. She had me on a strictly every other night schedule with NO variation what so ever. Meaning if I was sick and missed one of the schedule nights there was no make up. It got to a point where sex was no fun any longer. Very happy to be out of that situation.
I really can’t say enough about being in a healthy sexual relationship with your wife. The quality of my marriage is much higher than my first one. I am happier, she seems happier. That is one big piece of advice I would give to couple marrying for the first time. Be thoughtful when it comes to sex. It is like air. No big deal unless you aren’t getting any. The lack of sex can cause resentment. It can cause tremendous problems in your marriage. It shouldn’t be used as a weapon when your mad and a reward when you want something.
Genuinely curious here – how can one be “medically retired” at 44 yet healthy enough to have sex several times a week?
:dubious:
Like others the ‘doesnt complain’ ‘dedicated’ etc language sounds a bit funny to me but these things can be over-interpreted.
What I would say is 5-6 times is ‘normal’ but so is wanting it a lot less. Noone is ‘lucky’ if they’re doing it at a frequency that doesnt really work for them, whether its high or low. The occasional pity is no issue, but if it get too frequent, problems can result.
Otara
I will try to answer this without being a) too offended by your question and b) not too snarky
You do realize that it is possible to be disabled and walk, talk, and have sex right? That not all disabled people are in a wheel chair or coma?
In 2003 I was a linesman for BellSouth. I had that carrer for 10 years prior to my accident. One day I climbed a pole and took the express way down. I fell off of it and broke my back. 3 major surgeries later I was left with 6 titanium screws and 3 rods holding my lower back together. Fused L3 to S1. I was also left with debilitating chronic pain that will never leave me. Believe it or not I can walk, talk and even have sex.
I wish I could return to work, and I have tried on several occasions. However due to my injury it just wasn’t possible to keep a job. Not only on my part, but the employer’s part as well. Why?
1: While the drugs manage the pain, there are times when they don’t seem to work at all. I wake up and have a difficult time even getting out of bed. And it isn’t because I am uncomfortable, it is because the pain is so bad that moving is difficult and I sit and debate about calling an ambulance to take me to the hospital. Except I know if I go they won’t do anything but shoot a ton of narcotics into me. The boss doesn’t seem to be very understanding when you call in for the 5th time in the last 4 months because you can’t move. They tend to like you to be reliable in showing up and don’t care about the reason.
2: Currently I take morphine and percocet to manage the pain. Both contribute to lethargy and it is miracle if I can stay awake more than 8 hours in a row. If you have never been on strong narcotics for any length of time you could never understand what it does to you. It has become so bad that my doctor has put me on amphetamine to counter the lethargic effects of the narcotics. I don’t like another drug, but at least I am able to stay awake for most of the day. Employers tend not to like their employees taking drugs such as morphine and amphetamine during working hours. They certainly don’t understand that if you don’t take them you will be in the fetal position in the corner crying from the pain. Drive the company vehicle? Would you let me drive your company car and risk an accident from an employee on medication?
3: As mentioned above, my back is fused and stable at this point. I can do about anything I could before (except bend over and tie my shoes). BUT, I cannot do it consistently. Lift something? Sure, but it might very well put me in bed for the next 4 or 5 days.
4: As an employer are you okay with me calling in a few times a month when I can’t make it out of bed, okay with me being on strong narcotics while I am at work, okay with me taking a short nap during working hours when I can no longer keep my eyes open due to the morphine, okay with me needing to sit down 15 or 20 minutes an hour because I can no longer stand up? If you are or know of someone that is willing to hire me, please email me because I sure would love to go back to work.
When I was able to work at my career I was making 80k plus a year with overtime and bonus. And to think that I gave it all up to live at near poverty level. I apologize that I am still able to have sex and I don’t live up to your definition of disabled. The next time I have a life changing accident I will keep you in mind and try to get hurt better. Perhaps if I am lucky I will paralyze myself and be on a ventalator and in a wheel chair and you will then have the satisfaction of knowing that I am truly truly worthy of your definition of being disabled. Apparently a Federal Judge who made the determination should have consulted with you first.
Once again, I apologize for the amount of sarcasm in my reply to your question. I am looking for no sympathy, but I won’t sit here and have you judge my injury. Walk one day in my shoes and I am sure your “dubious” though would be a bit different.
My partner travels a lot on business, but when he’s in town we have sex 1-2 times a day. I am also on testosterone replacement therapy, but haven’t noticed that it makes any difference.
I am 66, and my partner is 46.
And tell your wife to find a different coworker to talk to.