This thread stems from a conversation that I had with a friend this afternoon. We had lunch together, and as I was driving her back to her work, Mr. Jeeves called. We had a brief conversation and I ended the call we end all of our calls, by saying “I love you” My friend starting making fun of me for being “lovey dovery”, and send that she couldn’t believe that after 6 years we were still like that (My friend has been married for 10 years) .
I didn't think it was that abnormal, but now that I think about it, I have never heard other people say 'I love you' to their SO's. Are we a disgusting and gross sentimental couple? We probably say 'that phrase' to each other 3 or 4 times a day. Its our way of letting the other person know they are special. How often do you say that to your SO, and how long have you been together?
My SO and I probably tell each other we love each other every few months. We’re an annoyingly cute couple in all other respects. We’ve been together about 5 years.
I know lots of couples, including my own parents (married 40 years), who are much closer to your numbers. I don’t think you are weird.
My husband and I say I love you to each other anywhere from 2 to 10 times a day.
Bare minimum really would be 2. Before we leave for work in the morning, and before we fall asleep at night. During the day we IM each other at work, usually just a quicke 'I love you" sometimes we email, ending with I love you. Every phone conversation ends with ‘love you’ and ‘bye.’ Then there are just random kisses and I love yous for the hell of it. Very sweet.
My sons are pretty good at it as well. We say I love you to each other at least twice a day. And when my son says goodbye to his gf after a phone conversation, he ends with ‘I love you’, which I admit, surprised me a little at first, but now I think is adorable.
I tell my wife I love her multiple times daily. It’s one of the first things I say to her in the morning and one of the last things I say to her in the evening as well. No matter how pissed off we are at each other, we still say it, and mean it, every day.
We’ve been together off and on for 7 years, married since last April. We didn’t really start saying it to each other until about two years ago when we were separated (by distance) for the first time. The longer we’re forced to stay apart, the more we say it to each other. When we haven’t been separated, it tends to be at the end of phone calls.
I’m not one to tell any one I love them. My husband is the only person I say it to. My family never says it to each other. When his family says it to me it always feels awkward.
All the time. Sometimes, I’ll just walk up to him, give him a hug and a kiss and tell him “I love you.” Or, “I wubba you,” depending on how silly I’m feeling. Married 3.5 years; together over 5.
My husband might have said it to me 4 times in ten years of marriage, 13 years together. I did find a photo of me in his pack with “I love you” written on it, which really touched me!
He is Japanese, and does NOT do any demonstrative stuff in public, EVER. It was hard to adjust at first but once when I complained, he got cross and said “I don’t SAY I love you, I DO I love you.” He gets fed up with foreign couples we know where the husbands in his opinion are all words but no action. I do say it occasionally but it has become hard to just come out with it - after 15 years some of the culture is rubbing off on me.
He is punctilious about saying please and thank you, and daily politenesses, works his ass off for us, forgoes a lot for us, puts up with a lot of crap because he has a foreign wife, and is as involved with our kids as a nearly-never-there Dad can be.
So I am not complaining. We know we are loved, and we love him!
