Our baby’s ten months old now, and we find the time about once a week to once per forthnight. But it seems to be better quality when we do. Both our solo activities (youknow) have plummeted as well.
He’s 35, I’m 41, together almost 4 years.
Have any of you heard about the bean-in-a-pot rule? “If you put a bean in a pot every time you make love in the first year of your relationship, and take one out for the rest of the relationship, you’ll never empty the pot.” We’re not doing so bad by that rule.
Dear god, yes. Us too. 2.5 years of stressful mid-cycle sex has kind of killed the spark. It’s still there sometimes, but much less than before we made the decision.
So before baby-making (ha!) sex, probably 3-4 times a week. Now it is more like 5-6 times a month, over a period of about week, and sometimes that’s hard to achieve. Fun times.