I’ve been seeing a 25 year old guy for 3 months now. We get along great with one exception - our sex drives are completely out of sync. I would like to have sex at least twice a day, more if possible, but he doesn’t seem to have an interest in having sex more than once a day, if that.
I don’t think that I am a nympho or that it’s unreasonable to want sex twice a day. I understand that there are times that one of us may be tired or not so interested in sex, but this is a new relationship - we should be going at it like rabbits!
I don’t have any male or female friends who can provide much input to my dilemma, so I thought I’d open it up for discussion here. Am I completely off base here? How often does a “normal” 25 year old guy want sex?
I’d say once a day will keep the doctor away… but what the hell do I know? Anytime you can get it is fine. I’m 23 and I want it all the frick’n time.
I just don’t get it all the time. I wish my wife were into the once a day routine…
“Normal” depends completely on the individual. While MOST 25-year-old guys would be thrilled to have a partner who wants it twice a day, it’s not at all unusual for someone to not want it so often. If your sex drives being out of sync is a problem for you, you need to talk to him about it and see if you can work out a compromise.
I’m not a 25 year old guy… but I’ve slept with a few.
Is he a good lover? If so, do you tell him that he’s a good lover? He may be feeling a little insecure in that department and needs a little reassurance that you like having sex with him and can’t get enough of him. Boost his ego and you’ll boost his sex drive.
I guess “all the time” would best describe me when I was 25.
But I know others who weren’t as passionate about passion as I was.
If the lack of sex is causing problems in your relationship, you’d better talk to him about it. If he says that that’s just the way he is… then you’ve got to decide which is more important to you, him or the sex.
Personally speaking, I am a 35 year old man who wants it more than once a day, and when I was 25, it was CERTAINLY no less, and likely more. But don’t blame yourself or him, there are different levels of desired frequency with different people. WHEN you talk to him about this, don’t treat it as a big problem. That may make things worse psychologically, which is a REAL bucket of cold water. Perhaps starting things on your own may get his motor running when he doesn’t think he wants to.
FYI, I’m a 26 year old female, and really, twice or three times a week is plenty for me. So you see, there are ranges of sexual desire and they’re all normal. Yours and his. Don’t make HIM feel the freak anymore than you want to feel that way. I’m sure you can reach some happy compromise.
Felt like I should check back in with more info. Yes, Kiki, he is a GREAT lover, and I tell him that all the time. If he weren’t so wonderful in bed, I wouldn’t be wanting it constantly.
And UncleBill, I do initiate sex, at least as often as he does. It just seems that once is enough, and no matter how I try to “rev his engine” or entice him into a second go-'round, he just isn’t into it. It’s not that I am unattractive or unresponsive - I know that he loves having sex with me, I am just puzzled by his lack of interest in a second act.
And actually, Mr Cynical, anal is already part of our bedroom activities. I’m rather open-minded when it comes to those sort of things.
I’d have to say that as a 28 year old guy, I don’t want it more than 2-3 times a week. The last girl I was with wanted it all the time and it got to be old rather quick. There could be other things too like he’s tired after work/school, things like that. I’d say talk to him, not that everyone else hasn’t already said that. Twice a day though, boy it’s been a long time since I wanted that.
