I just say “I’d do him” or “He’s highly fuckable.” I don’t get weirded out when Mr. K says things about the hotosity of starlets. They ARE better looking than me. Doesn’t mean he’s going to fly to Hollywood and show up on their doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and a box of candy.
Himself and I discuss the attractiveness of others. We even look in public (sometimes at the same person). What we don’t do is behave in any obvious way to make the other person (or the one being looked at) uncomfortable, compare each other to the “looked at” in a negative way, or act on any of those attractions.
I’ve never gotten in to a discussion about “piropos” so the again part must have been before my time.
I stated in the sentence above the one you posted that there is a difference between looking or appreciating and oogling.
I can assure you that just because my husband doesn’t stop dead in his tracks and zooms in on a woman’s tits or crotch he most certainly isn’t my beard. As I said he has a little more class than that.
I’m far from jealous or insecure but I certainly wouldn’t want my husband making crude remarks to me about another woman or telling me he’d like to sleep with her. I’d just wonder about what would motivate a man to do that.
When I was first married, we were in a supermarket where this HOT, and I mean nuclear reactions of the sun hot, hot with a capital H-O-T woman was standing in line at the checkout. The wife caught me looking and gave me the disgusted elbow, to which I simply replied, “Honey, ask her where she got the dress, because the others in the store must look fantastic on you too.”
Nice save, and I got her to finally purchase a dress that makes her look stunning.
Count us in the group that doesn’t have a problem with oogling by either partner. We have fairly different taste in women, but every so often there is one that we can agree on.
The female body is a beautiful thing, meant to be looked at and appreciated. Like Nava I’d worry if he didn’t look.
The big rule is “you can acknowledge another person is attractive or desirable but don’t ever imply that another person is more attractive or desirable than the person you’re with.”
The word is '“ogle” or “ogling”, not “oogle” or “oogling”!
This is it exactly. While my husband and I will say the very crude “oh my gawd, he/she is totally fuckable!” we are both quite sure of the other’s affection. I like pointing out hot women to him, because hey, I get to reap the benefits of his…excitement, andvice versa. I should point out that my husband is very much a southern gentleman and is pretty good at looking without ogling 
It probably has a lot to do with the experiences the person has already encountered. I once discovered on a date that the person with whom I was out could not tolerate any mention of another woman’s appearance, (although, oddly, she had no compunction about drooling over different guys (usually on film screens) when with me). I found it odd, but not really off-putting–I’m not much of a public drooler, anyway–and later I discovered that she had been involved in a serious relationship with a guy who relentlessly disparaged her appearance. (She was actually quite cute, although probably not hawt.) Fortunately, she had finally dumped the cur, but the damage appeared to have been permanent.
As others have noted above, I already know that I was never a threat to Gregory Peck, Brad Pitt, or George Clooney, so I always figured that if a woman expressed an interest in a good looking guy, it was mere physicality–if she had really found him seriously more attractive, she would not have been with me.
Just one more acknowledgement of the truth of this – in fact it’s so true that it wouldn’t even have occurred to me to point it out.
I can see how someone might think that the implication is there regardless, of course – if their partner is relatively quiet about how fecking spectacular they are.
I’m not really interested in hearing who my lady is sexually attracted to, and I don’t think she would care much if I mentioned something like that. Movies maybe, but people in public? Totally gross, not to mention the rudeness involved in staring and pointing.
It’s not really something I’ve ever talked about with other guys; attraction is less intuitive and more instinctive. What is really gained by saying ‘Mary is HOT’? Does the other person say, ‘You know, I didn’t think of it before, but now that you mention it…’?