So, I have this friend that is generally hooking up with ugly, or sometimes hot women. He once complained that he was married to a woman, the very sight of whom, naked, made him sick.
Ugly spouses?? Doesn’t sound like an easy situation to be in, or to get out of.
Has this ever been the case with anyone here? How did you deal with it? Any cure for the situation? Any EASY cure?
Just curious.
Thanks,
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Is your friend still married to the woman he can’t stand the sight of while he’s hooking up with hot or ugly women? Cause if he is, he doesn’t sound like a prize himself.
I can see how this could happen, if someone you love changes significantly after you’ve made a commitment to them, but I’d like to think most people don’t have a relationship with people they aren’t attracted to, and hopefully that goes beyond just how they look.
Hmm… I wouldn’t say I’ve been grossed out by the sight of my naked husband. He does, however, have quite a collection of surgical scars, the ass-burn scars, the screwed up feet… Let’s just say he’s not “conventionally handsome”. Between that and advancing age he’s not as cute as he used to be.
How do I deal with it? I take my glasses off. I can’t see crap without my glasses. Problem solved.
This is the most romantic post I’ve seen in ages. Seriously. I think this is so sweet.
I frequently carry pepper spray with me into the shower. That way, if Mrs. Devil happens by … ~SSSSSST~ … Romance saved!
No, my wife’s still pretty damned hot.
Me, not so much. I do sympathize with her plight. And I diet, so there.
My husband is very hot (lucky me).
I’m beginning to resemble a beluga; however, he claims he still finds me hot. So that’s the solution - develop a fetish for pregnancy, or bow legs, or tummy apron, or arm shwabble, or whatever. Problem solved.
Well, I think in the looks department, he’s middlin’. Don’t know about naked. However, as for being a prize, well, the word ‘idiot’ is not terribly foreign in conversations about him.
Best wishes,
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The easy situation is not to marry based on looks. Imho, about 80% of divorces are a result of making a bad decision about who to marry, e.g. the hot sexy chick who has daddy issues and a drinking problem (i.e. Britney Spears.)
Honestly, if you marry a person who is beautiful on the inside, you’re set for life.
Now, what to do if you made a bad choice:
I was never ‘grossed out’ so to speak. The only time I ever had any issue was when she was going through some severe body image issues and would point out her flaws every chance she got.
Women: If there are parts of you that you find unattractive (flabby belly from losing weight and/or having a baby, pancake boobs from the same thing, cellulite, etc etc etc), fine, mention it if you need to, but when all you do is harp on it, constantly. Pointing it out to everyone that’ll listen, showing it to your SO several times a day and complaining that you can’t get rid of it and talking about how ugly it is…he’s going to start feeling the same way.
FTR, she was diagnosed with anorexia, exercise bulimia (which turned into regular bulimia) and body dismorphic disorder. Her life revolved around these superficial flaws. It was really difficult when I’d see her talking to a stranger and she’d say “Sorry you have to see my belly jiggling when I laugh” if they said something funny or if she was talking about clothes she would immediately jump to clothes not fitting well because her boobs were so small.
My wife says I’m hot, that’s good enough for me. and I Know she’s hot.
Occasionally seeing my husband naked is amusing, but it’s never gross. It appears to be the same for him as well. 
I think my SO is very sexy, clothed or otherwise. If he were in a terrible accident tomorrow and ended up covered in burn scars or lost a leg or something he would still be sexy to me. He makes me laugh, comforts me when I’m sad or upset, and looks at me like he thinks I’m the most incredible woman the world has ever known. Nothing that could happen to him physically would make me think he was unattractive because the man he is inside is gorgeous.
A while ago, my husband was shirtless and slouching in his computer chair in such a way that from the couch where I was, he looked to be about 60lbs heavier than he is and kind of sweaty (and since he hadn’t shaved, I’d been calling him a Dirty Old Frenchman for most of the morning), and yes, I was a little grossed out. I said his name, he sat up and looked at me, and I laughed and told him that he’d been sitting in a way that made him look rather fat and ugly, and he proceeded to return to the same position while making boorish and gross comments in his Dirty Old Frenchman voice, which made me laugh, and I wasn’t grossed out at all any more.
I’m also utterly revolted by his stench after a bike ride on a really hot day, or post-hockey-game-but-pre-shower.
But for what the OP describes? No. I find him sexy, but certain situations can be decidedly non-sexy.
Never. I can honestly say that I have excellent taste in men. And after 22 years my partner still excites me, whether he’s naked of clothed.
But the amazing thing is that I don’t gross him out when I’m naked (or so he claims) . . . in spite of being 20 years older than he is.
Your husband and my husband - separated at birth? Telling Jim something he’s doing is unattractive is pretty much a surefire way to get more of it. 
I thought not, but then I remembered once, with my previous boyfriend. It seems disloyal to get into it, so I won’t say the details here, but suffice it to say it has happened.
Grossed out by my s/0 naked? No. I’ll gladly go into the bedroom just to watch her get undressed.
That said, she’s overweight and knows it, and she thinks her butt is way too big. Fortunately for her, I find that very sexy.
My husband strongly resembles a dirty old man. Actually, I think I’m going to start calling him Dirty Old Frenchman like mnemosyne. He doesn’t shower on weekends, is losing his hair and, as soon as he gets home from wherever he’s been, he takes off his pants and wanders the house in his underwear. He’s gotten a paunch over the years, along with love handles, and a slightly flabbier chest. That said, I still find him intensely attractive.
And for some reason he also finds me attractive, even though I’m slightly overweight, have my very own paunch and am getting wrinkles and craters places I never imagined I’d get wrinkles and craters. I try very hard to be confident when naked. After I had my son, I harped constantly on my increased girth, which significantly impacted everything about our relationship. I stopped doing that, started working out and trying to eat healthier and things improved.
My wife has basically the same body she did when I met her 25 years ago, except her boobs are a bit bigger (thanks to nursing), her hips are slightly curvier, and her belly has a sexy little pooch (thanks to two pregnancies). In certain… body positions I can identify with the Seinfeldian- “good naked” and “bad naked”, but I’ve never been close to being grossed out.