First, a little self-analysis: Some people are natural people magnets and can make friends at the drop of a hat. Other people (like me) have a couple of close friends and a lot of acquaintances. It’s not that I’m shy or lack confidence. It’s just that I tend to make the extra effort to remain close to a few people while not making the same level of effort with the general population (does that make sense?).
My kids are getting older and after recent events find myself single. This has made me realize how small my personal circle of friends really is. So what I’m looking for is help on ways to start re-building that circle of friends. I guess I know about the obvious things (join a gym, take classes, etc.) and I do some of those things now but not to meet people but because I enjoy doing them. When most of your friends are made as part of a couple, how do you go about building your own set of friends when you become singe?
Just being friendly helps. It also depends on your personal situation. If you work in an office, there might be possible friends there. I have a friend from each of most places where I worked in the past. Some people make friends at churches. I made friends doing volunteer work. Looks like the SDMB has dope fests where people meet and make friends, too.
Thanks Violet. I’ve been to a couple of dope fests and me a lot of great people. I guess I’m just wondering how to rebuild my social life from people who have been there/done that/got the tshirt. After an LTR, a majority of our friends are other couples and/or “kid” friends where our kids would play together. I have a lot of great people that I know but if I want to go out to dinner or a show, I’m hard-pressed to find anyone I can pick up the phone and call. I’m not even really talking about “dating” but more just re-building that circle of friends that I can hang out with.