Yo. Just checking in. To let you know, if you’re interested, it didn’t work out. Seems like Zach won’t pick up on his chances to show Ashley that he’s interested in her (although Nina and I have gotten pretty friendly in front of him… idk what’s up with that. And Nina just refuses to talk about it. She seems really cocky about it (“Zach’ll do whatever I want, don’t worry about him”) - that’s all she said when we tried to talk with her. We really want it to be all out in the open about what everyone wants and is ok with. So we’re just waiting to make some new friends - the right friends. We’re not willing at all to go to any parties or clubs… we can wait. We’d like to know the people for a little while first. It might never happen, and that’s ok. The main thing to us is that we’re gunna love and be attracted to each other no matter what. Would still like to chat to people about this topic. Nobody to talk to in our lives about this, really - so please keep posting, people.
My husband and I recently decided to give the lifestyle a try and we love it. There is nothing wrong with our marriage, or sex life. We are not old, or bored. We started talking one night and admitted some fantasies that involved other people. We talked about it for months using it as foreplay in the bedroom. Finally after about 6 months decided to look into it more seriously and pursue it. We discussed all different options, threesomes, swinging, totally separate playing. We deciding swinging sounded the most like what we wanted, we want to see the other partner being enjoyed and enjoying someone else. Its not about cheating or just screwing someone that isn’t in our marriage. We are an intelligent, confident, attractive, young couple. So maybe not your stereotypical swinging couple but from what we’ve seen so far you can not assume to know what ‘type’ of person swings. We’ve met or talked to all different varieties.
As for the guy that’s having the confusing swinging couple, just move on. Don’t get involved if you can’t get everyone on the same page. And don’t be afraid to go to a swinging gathering. I was scared to go but decided we would go if it was horrible we could leave and get some dinner or something. It was SO much better than I would have guessed, it was a house party. The owners gave us a tour, explained the rules, made us feel totally comfortable. Good swingers don’t expect anything from any couple they meet. We went, they told us check things out and many times as you’d like. He explained no one should (and hasn’t) ever touch you without your permission. You can just meet people there and plan on meeting them again for drinks or to play later if you hit it off. You do not have to have sex with people you just met. Its just a house party where some people may be dressed a little more sexy and you may see some couples getting it on (some places will not allow this at the parties).