Okay, I’ve not had the greatest luck with women in my life, but with all the women I’ve ever been with there’s been one of two elements present:
1.) Some time shortly after I meet the woman, I hear an audible (to me, anyways) “click” sound.
or
2.) They basically strip me naked and screw my brains out.
If either of those two aren’t present, then the relationship fizzles out before it ever begins.
I can hear the “click” with or without even speaking to the women. When I hear the “click” it pretty much doesn’t matter what I do, we end up in a relationship. No “click”, and I can’t get a relationship going, no matter what I do. Also, if they don’t throw themselves at me, when I don’t hear the “click,” then I can’t get interested in them, no matter how hard I try.
I’m not claiming psychic powers here, but I’d like to know what’s going on and if I’m the only one this happens to.
Tuckerfan-
Re #2, you mean initially, right? Because if none of your SO’s has EVER done #2 to you, we need to have a little chat!
Also, are you drunk when you meet the future girlfriends? Maybe you’re confusing the relationship click with Brick’s
“Ive had enough booze” click in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof!
Right, if they don’t do it initially, then either: A) I have no clue that they’re interested in me or B.) I can’t seem to get things to go to the next level.
And while I have heard the “click” when I’ve been drunk a time or two, most of the time when I hear it, I’m sober.
Last night, I was over a buddy’s house and he introduced me to a gal that he thought I might be able to hook up (he, of course, denies this, but it was pretty obvious what he was planning) with and while she was definately interested in me, there was just something about her that set my teeth on edge and I wouldn’t have been able to get interested in her if my life depended upon it. (Not saying she was horrible looking or anything like that, mind you, just that I couldn’t get interested in her.) What’s really odd is that the first time I met my buddy’s girlfriend (before she became his girlfriend), I “clicked” with her, but that’s another story.
An analyst would have a field day with your question. “It’s transference. Something about her reminds you of your mother - or - something about you reminds her of her father.”
Gotta have one for it to be ruined! I don’t see how it can be transference because many times I’ve heard the “click” without either of us saying anything. Hell, one gal glanced at me and turned away and I heard the “click”! (And, yeah, things worked pretty well with her.)
Odd. I’ve only felt that instant-click, instant-chemistry thing with one guy. I just couldn’t keep my eyes off him and vice-versa. I somehow managed to get my phone number to him and we started seeing each other. The sex with him was red-hot and smoking, but I could never see myself in a serious relationship with him. Well, maybe, but we never explored that option. He ended it (bummer) but we ran into each other again when we both moved half-way across the country (had to have been destined) and took up with other again briefly.
Ok, I’ll admit the click thing is weird, but WHAT HAPPENED WITH YOUR WEIRD NEIGHBORS? Let’s get this weirdness cleared up before moving on to your love life!
They’re still there, but the limo disappeared about the first or second week of September (no, my neighbors are not Middle Eastern, if they were I woulda been on the phone to the Feds) and hasn’t been seen since. They’ve gotten friendlier I’ve noticed. They actually smile and wave now. One of them even said, “Hello.”
Sarah? Is that you? (Just kidding.) Sort of know what you mean. The last two times I’ve gotten the “click” I’ve tried to avoid jumping into the sack immediately. One time it backfired horribly, the other time the ending wasn’t quite what I would have liked, but I’m not going to complain about it either. In any case, the next time I hear the “click,” I’m going to try to make the relationship work, instead of simply screwing her brains out. It may not work, but nothing else has either up to this point.
