Why wouldn’t he? The one time I saw his TV show (early November), that’s exactly what he had on. A stripper was given a lie-detector test that included questions about sniffing farts and anal and lesbian sex. Another woman “auditioned” for a role in a softcore movie. Then there was an appearance by what I think was a black dwarf, painted green and wearing a diaper who appeared retarded.
Oops, should’ve checked the preview for that bold tag. Sorry. Also, I caught this typo:
That “and physical abuse” should obviously be “AS physical abuse.”
They were married long before Howard was a celebrity. There is no evidence that the attention that he’s received – and that was cast upon Allison as well – was something that she wanted but it certainly was out of her control.
There are instances in which one party in a relationship isn’t happy with the ramifications that their partner’s career is having on their lives, but in order to be supportive, they don’t complain, hoping that things will change, or that they’ll grow desensitized to the problem. When it finally grows to become unbearable and they have to complain for their own sanity, the partner views it as an illogical betrayal. “What do you mean this bothers you? For all these years you’ve been fine with it! I don’t want to hear all this complaining!”
Am I the only one who can imagine this scenario occurring in the Stern marriage?
Howard’s life was great – Allison’s clearly wasn’t or she wouldn’t have left him. If her life wasn’t happy because of problems with Howard, then they both bore the responsibility to work out those problems to their mutual satisfaction. It would seem that they were unable to do that.
Servants don’t raise children. Servants can make sure that they have clean clothes and food, and even help with homework. But that isn’t raising children, that’s caring for them, which is different. The raising of children is the responsibility of the parents, plural, and that means that both of them need to input time, energy and emotional effort – a parent who, by his own admission, spends time locked away from his family trying to “unwind” on his own is not being a good parent. He is not raising his children. Similarly, he is not putting forth the effort required to be a good spouse, which also demands work and time. He is not fulfilling his responsibilities to his spouse or the kids – and if the cause of it is the stresses of his job, then the spouse and kids have every right to suggest (and I’d go so far as to say demand) that he attempt to reduce his work-caused stresses so that he was better able to cope, and therefore spend more time being actively involved with his family.
And some women might feel betrayed by a husband who spends hours in the presence of other women who are pruriently naked. And you discount emotional abuse, or neglect, which are just as damaging and detrimental and physical abuse.
If work, and the baggage that it carries, is a detriment to the marriage, then it is as legitimate an impediment to the continuation of that marriage as any other fundamental problem.
The simple fact is this – the Stern marriage was broken and they could not fix it. It happens to millions of couples every year, the only difference is that most couples, even celebrity couples, don’t have one partner who will gladly use this personal tragedy as fodder for his “entertainment” schtick, and will present the story in a method clearly designed to enhance sympathy toward himself. What we’ve heard is not the truth of the matter, and any report that we hear will not be the truth of the matter, regardless of the source. None of us were in the marriage, none of us had to put up with what Allison did, or what Howard did. Speculating on the reasons why is useless. She’s moved on, he’s moved on, so should we.
I agree 100%. The woman gets all of husband #1’s money and all of husband #2’s money.