… the younger one? Is this a trick question?
How long did you have to hunt to find the least possible attractive picture of the 30 year old Kate?
I just want to throw in a nice AMEN to this whole post.
As you wouldn’t judge someone else by their looks alone, please don’t judge yourself! I don’t know you personally, but it’s clear that you are far more than mere facial structure, hairdo, etc.
I don’t mean to make light of your post, but please don’t define yourself by a word like ‘ugly.’
You are you, the one and only you; irreplaceable, valuable, and unique.
Well, the user name is certainly appropriate. :rolleyes:
i’m a man who makes a living off my camera. I’m quite straight. I treat really hot women like shit constantly. I make them one of the guys so they have fewer defenses when I treat them like shit. Why? because I’ve been immunized against exterior beauty. So what if a woman is ‘hot.’ American media’s portrayal of what is ‘hot’ means that all the ‘hot’ chicks are trying to look the same way. So BRAVO if you’re hot. there are 12 more just like you who are going to walk by in the next half hour. doesn’t mean I treat ugly people any better or any worse. Pretty much, I don’t care how you look. God help you if you come to me willfully ignorant though. That is when I go into hyper asshole mode. Trust me, my significant other is short, has ‘mom boobs complete with real stretchmarks,’ is more muscular than most guys who aren’t muscle bound gym rats would care for, has super fine hair, and she is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I love the way she looks. What is more important though, is that she is smart (going to grad school for applied medical anthropology,) she’s a great mom, she’s fun, and we agree on all the important interpersonal issues (spirituality, child rearing, need vs. want, etc.) Hot don’t last forever, but stupid does. I think the OP’s real problem is that she is hanging out with her peers…college aged guys. I remember when I was in college. I thought with my eyes and my dick when I wasn’t in class. I wasn’t looking for the love of my life and a long term relationship. I was looking to get my dick wet. I could care less what was on the inside, in fact, I wanted you to be shallow, vain, bitchy and arrogant…so I could have an excuse to get rid of you once I had gotten my dick wet. In short, OP…just give it a few years, or find a guy in his early 30’s.
also, I’d much rather die like Mother T…old and in bed, with no one asking things like 'You know what Princess Di and Pink Floyd have in common?..the Wall."
Jack and Jill went up the hill
To fetch a pail of water
Silly Jill forgot her pill
And now they have a daughter!
This is one big mess of a response but I’m wondering if you could clarify the bolded parts? You treat “hot women” like shit constantly but that’s not better or worse than how you treat ugly people yet you don’t care how people look? Besides sounding like an oh-so-awesome-guy (sarcasm) you seem awfully confused and more than a little contradictory.
I’m a gay man so my opinion probably doesn’t count for much, but that pic of her at 30 is WAY hotter than the one at 20. If that’s the least possible attractive picture of her at 30, just must be smokin’
So you treat hot women and ugly women the same . . . like shit.
I’m not sure if anyone replied to this gem:
I thought Sandra Bernhard was a lesbian? Nothing wrong with lesbians, but women in relationships with other women are way less concerned about looks than men in relationships with women (or men for that matter, since gay men tend to have more body image issues)… so maybe she’s not the best example.
Because honestly, I stopped reading the thread after I read it. Where do you get your information–Archie Bunker? Sorry to be blunt here but what a positively idiotic thing to say. There’s so many things wrong with making a statement like that, that I’m wondering if it’s actually your personality that is unattractive. I’d look into getting yourself a social skills makeover.
He’s more machine now than man. His mind is twisted and evil.
I figure he just never has time to treat ugly women like anything since he’s constantly following the beautiful women around and treating them like shit.
Why treat anyone like shit?
I know Diosa already gave kudos to this post, but I have to add mine. You’re one of my favorite posters here and this post is just one of the many reasons that’s true.
Hi
I really feel for you because I have been there. I was teased for being so ugly when I was a kid. I was also pretty smart - not so much intellectually, but I was an art prodigy so people noticed my talents, while still maintaining how ugly I was.
I say ‘was’ because at about your age I decided to do somethng about it. I got myself a ‘style’ and a ‘look’ and I carried myself with confidence. I learned to use products and makeup and did my hair, wore great clothes etc. The boys who had dissed me in my youth were now begging to be part of my life.
My sister in law can only be described, facially, as ‘ugly’. She has a very big nose and wide, flat hips, but trust me when I tell you that this woman is hot, totally hot! It is about the way she carries herself and the ‘femme’ presentation. It does not take beauty to be feminine and it is feminity which attracts guys. Sadly smart does not equal feminine in the minds of most men, so we smart women need to be cagey too. You will learn to love your stealthy vantage point in time.
I say this - we do not all have big lips and the right proportions that are in fashion now, but we can all have great skin, fitness, good hair and teeth.
I am 54 next week and I look 38 on a good day. My recent boyfriend turns 30 this year and he is hot. What I am saying is - there’s plenty to help you with your looks out there - just be willing to accept that we as women need to look good to be noticed. Our brains will attract the smarter ones of them, that’s all.
Good luck.
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