I am the Happiest Person in the World

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I am the happiest person in the world. I say this with these chosen words not for objective accuracy, but because sometimes exaggeration can be used to express emphasis. (Or in the Bible, I guess, repetition serves that purpose.) But I’m using it the same way a curse word can be used emphatically. (I’m also highly skilled in using curse words in this manner and respect those who are also thusly talented.)

Yes yes, I am getting to the point. But colorful wording draws in the reader.

I am truly in love. Not unconditional love. Oh no. However, I have come to a point in my relationship in which regardless of the circumstances, I just feel warmth and gratitude. Even upon thinking back on not so “perfect” moments. Even those are starting to make me smile softly when I’m driving down the road.

I am possibly going to infuriate the readers of this post because it seems like I hold the secret to finding the right mate. I can’t really figure it out, though. Not eloquently or with brevity.

It’s not about choosing the person, I think. I mean, everyone likes to think there’s a list of qualities. I recently made a post defending the importance of choosing a sexy mate. However, I think it just was a natural thing. We don’t stay together because we’re highly patient, compromising people. Hell no.

I find it impossible to lose even a tiny bit of respect for this person. We argue and have less than mature reactions to situations at times. But there’s some solid sense of understanding one another that disallows me to judge him.

Basically, I’m unwittingly writing a love letter.

(If this is against forum rules, whoops. Plus, there’s some nuggets in there I can see people disputing, so have at it!)

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Congratulations. Looking at your profile I can see who exactly you’re talking about.

I can tell you that from what I know of him on these boards, he’s a good guy!

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Awww. I love love. Mazel Tov!

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I truly hope this love lasts forever. Good luck, make the most of it.
How long have you two been together?
Tell us the story.

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Congratulations. :slight_smile:

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Oh good for you. Being in love is a very nice feeling.

Enjoy it!

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Oh, the story has so many lefts, rights, ups and downs that I am not entirely sure the reader would want to touch that ball of knots with a 10-foot pole. I’ll still try, though.

We met on OkCupid. Horrible site, don’t even think it’s relevant anymore. I remember being impressed with his intelligence, the fact we both won spelling bees as kids, etc. One of his main pictures was with an ironic shirt on that said, “Don’t worry, it still works.” (If you know him, he’s a paraplegic. That level of humor is incredible.)

Neither of us was very trusting or hopeful of finding anyone significant, I think. It was an absolute surprise to me how calm I immediately felt around him. We very nearly had sex in the car on the first date. Very unlike me! Heck, I was a recovering Jehovah’s Witness at the time, if that helps you understand how unlike me it was.

I think we both hid how intensely we felt about each other until time had passed and it appeared more prudent to let more and more become known, but even so, I think we moved sort of fast.

Little things give it away, though. I think I had only been living here a few months when some plant of mine died and I was all upset about it and he let me get a cat to replace it. Little events like that that don’t exactly follow, but revealed a lot. (He’s very sweet to me.)

We’re very nearly inseparable. We try to work out together (it’s an ultimate goal of mine to go to his gym regularly but it’s super expensive!), we spend inordinate amounts of time together, and we never ever get bored of each other. It’s so cute you’d probably want to puke if I went into detail.

To add a tiny bit of spice to the story, we’re sort of kind of swinging. And I love it! Not sure many would understand that. :slight_smile:

His family loves me soooo much, too. I can’t even stand it. They freaking give me gifts on holidays like I am a daughter, and have since the very first year. I get little kisses on the cheek from his father. Awesome people. Just all around, I am spoiled to have him and his family in my life.

Not sure if that’s exactly what you asked for, but it’s what you get. Ha.

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Very happy for you both. Ambivalid is a good guy.

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May you both have many, many years of happiness.

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So, wait: does this mean you two aren’t gonna fight?!

Relevant thread: https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=850130

:wink:

Congrats you lovebirds. Ya gotta date the sexy.

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Thread relocated from IMHO to MPSIMS, though your post is neither mundane nor pointless. Congratulations. :slight_smile:

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I’m failing at finding a witty retort. Damn. :slight_smile:

However, on that subject, I think arguing is a really healthy thing. In fact, avoiding arguments creates distance. So much unsaid makes for unhappy people. So I generally like to try to explain to people the benefits of the occasional argument. But anywho.

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Timothy Leary once said (approximately), “I think I’m the happiest person who ever lived, but I’m hoping that I am wrong… So that you can show me what your secret is…”

Because the road forward is open. I hope you have a wonderful adventure.