I appear to have a date.

Yesterday evening, after work, my friend Steve called and invited me over to eat pizza and sit around gossipping with him, his fiancee Tara, and whoever else happened to be there. He was somewhat vague on this point, but I, being fond of their company and pizza, went on over. When I arrived, a woman I had never seen before (trust me, I’d remember!) was sitting on the couch. She introduced herself as Nadine, and I sat down beside her. We had a nice little chat, with me trying not to look at her too much, as invariably all the pretty, interesting women I meet are straight. Steve went off to purchase beverages, leaving Nadine and me pretty much alone except for Tara singing Patsy Cline songs in the kitchen. (She does that, don’t know why.) In the course of the conversation, she mentioned an ex-girlfriend, and I immediately snapped to attention. Not that I hadn’t been attending before, but this bit of news was unprecedented and I had to devote all mental resources to it.

It turns out that Nadine is definitely not straight. In fact, Steve and Tara had been talking me up to her for several weeks, but not been able to get us together in the same place till now. They hadn’t told me, of course; in my high school years, I didn’t mind a set-up, but now, I’ve soured on them somewhat.

At any rate, Nadine said that they kept telling her that I was cute and smart and single, and if only we didn’t have such conflicting schedules. She said she was wary, not liking set-ups much herself. She did say, however, that I was indeed cute, and she liked talking to me. Then she asked me if I had plans this weekend.

My reaction was basically :eek: Once I recovered, all was well, though. In sum, I didn’t have plans when she asked me, but I do have some now. :smiley:

Other than “good for you and I hope it works out” I don’t have much to say, because I’m dating-impaired and I don’t like set-ups either.

I once got set up and dated a woman for three months without realizing we were dating.

Woohoo! Go, you!

I’ve had a tough time getting dates for the past few years as well, no matter how attentive I am.

And to think, my wife would love for me to bring home some hot dish!
Well, thems the breaks.

Have a great weekend.

You don’t even want to know how long it took me to realize she was angling for a date. Someday my idea of people making signs saying “Do you want to go out with me?” will catch on. Being clueless about these things is so much fun!

applause Have fun, wot? :wink:

Um. Now it appears that I am seeing her tonight as well.

This is all happening so fast. Can’t process.

Great – but don’t call U-Haul till tomorrow, 'kay?

Well, she called me back. Seems this weekend is a no go. Something came up. So it’s good that I’ll get to see her tonight, because it looks like I won’t be seeing her otherwise for a couple more weeks.

Update: I’m home already, so that should tell you something.

Nadine picked me up and we had dinner. Conversation was good, though it faltered a few times, as is usual, I would think, with many first dates, especially when you don’t know each other that well. We talked about Steve’s wedding. She’s a bridesmaid and has dated two of the groomsmen. She asked me a lot about school. She graduated from the same university as I, and one of her degrees is in finance, so she and I know several of the same professors. She takes a lot of weekend trips. Mostly we talked about school and her past relationships. I tried asking her about her job, where she traveled, what sort of music and books she liked, but everything kept turning back to her various exes. She didn’t seem nearly as interesting as she had last night. I probably didn’t either, though.

After dinner, we got back in the car and discussed again what we wanted to do. This afternoon, we’d considered and rejected a movie, as we both thought that wasn’t a good place for a first date. A first date’s focus should be on conversation, we felt, and talking in a movie is rude, as well as not what movies are for anyway. She asked me if I played pool. I don’t. I still haven’t quite learned. She said, “Well, I don’t really feel like teaching you tonight.” OK. Got any other ideas? (must learn to play pool one of these years) She suggested a club. I warned her that I really didn’t dance and that I’m not much of a drinker, either. “That shouldn’t be a problem,” she said. “Come out on the floor with me. I’m sure you can’t be nearly as embarrassing as most of the people I’ve been with.” So we went to Cowboys, which is where many of the college kids hang out. I don’t go there very often, due to aforementioned non-dancing and non-drinking.

It was smoky in there, as usual. She got a beer, I got a Sprite. We sat out a little while, which was kind of nice, as she snuggled up to me, which made people look at us. The snuggling was nice, I mean, not the looking. Eventually a half-decent fast song started and off we went. We tried to talk a little more while we were dancing, which was a mistake, since we couldn’t hear each other. We didn’t stay at the club very long. The smoke was giving me a headache and I felt stupid trying to dance. Nadine and I went back to her place and lounged around. She gave me something for the headache, which was quite welcome, and we watched a bit of tv. She asked me to stay over. I declined because I just didn’t feel right. She took me back home and here I am, as hopeless a social clod as ever. Sigh.

At least you know she’s pretty keen on you, right?

I guess. All the talking about the exes was a bit confusing.

It doesn’t sound like she thought you were a clod!

Good luck :slight_smile:

Eh, it depends. Did she just recently break up with someone? A few of the girls I have gone out with end up doing this when they split with a girlfriend and are not yet over it(though they think they are).

or

not!

Either way for sure you know…your cute and you had a date!

Sounds like a pretty successful first date to me… good luck!

Meanwhile, on another message board, Nadine’s probably posting how she went out on a date with this really great woman and totally screwed up everything because she was so nervous: “She kept trying to change the subject, but I kept babbling about my exes. She told me she didn’t play pool and I made fun of her. She told me she didn’t like to dance or drink and I took her to a club. And then after I had done everything wrong, I topped it all by asking her to spend the night. She turned me down of course. What was I thinking? She’s way out my league. She’s probably dating supermodels and rock stars.”

Ah, y’all are so nice.

I got a call from her today, though, and she said that though I was intelligent and attractive, I seemed to be too serious for her. I’m welcome to look her up when I get bored, she says.

{{{H-sol}}}

Sorry it didn’t work out – oh well.

Thanks. S’okay, though. Continuing spinsterhood it is.

Somebody better teach me how to play pool one of these days, though!