I can hear you. Stop hitting me. (Lame and whiney)

Pretty sure that was a play on your spelling mannerisms as “manurisms” (you know, manure…) :wink:

Oh… haha I was too lazy to grab the dictionary… There are words I know how to say, but have no idea how to spell. :stuck_out_tongue:

Yep.

I hate this.

I am glad to be quasi-middle aged, because when I was a young and attractive blonde–I got this alot.

Guys grabbbing my elbows, touching my forearm or shoulder.

Get. Away. From. Me.

It was usually…ahem…OLDER men. Thinking they’re being courtly and debonair.

fuck off-you are borderline harassing me.

Now that I am older–this doesn’t happen so much. I do not miss it.

I also loathe people who stand too close to me. I knew (emphasis on past tense) a woman who would circle in closer and closer, as I would back up…once she backed me into a wall, jabbering away 19 to the dozen about trivia.

I would NEVER make it in Italy, or so I hear.

I’m of Anglo-Saxon descent–give me my space and don’t touch me!!! (unless I tell you too…heh. :cool: )

“Touchers” are asked politely to not do that to me anymore, if they keep on I let them know that I am going to consider any further contact a “first punch” and defend myself accordingly.
“Close talkers” get pretty much the same treatment, I ask nicely the first time and take action after that.
Personal space is very important to me and I will NOT be made to feel uncomfortable in order to placate an idiot with bad home training.

Unclviny

I used to work in retail, right out there on the sales floor. One thing I COULD NOT STAND was when a customer would touch me. The worst ones were those who would tap me on the shoulder behind my back while I was busy doing something else (sometimes talking to another customer, which is outright RUDE!) I’m high-strung as it is, so unexpected contact tends to make me a little jumpy, and it’s embarrassing when I can’t help but flinch when someone touches me without my authorization. God, I just wanted to slap the shit out of these people and knock some sense into them. HANDS OFF, PEOPLE!!!

This really depends on the family and cultural background of the person. I’m sure most of you have gotten the sociolinguistics example of a guy from South America and a guy from North America talking at a party. They start at one end of the room and end up on the other side because the North American guy keeps backing up to get to his comfort zone and the South American guy keeps trying to get closer to get to his normal friendly conversation distance.

This is the same kind of thing. You can bitch about it or take more direct measures, like asking them not to touch you so much, but you’d better be prepared for them to think you’re cold or an asshole. My boss when I was working as a dock loader at a factory was from New York. She was a 4’11’’ rotund, chain-smoking, close talker. Normally, when people are that close, it’s hugging distance. Years later, when I went to New Jersey for a seminar, I found out that this is kind of an east coast big city thing. Their talking distance is about 4-6 inches closer than normal for us left coasters.

If I hadn’t had some non-American friends growing up, I probably would have lost that job. Hanging out with kids from different cultures, you get used to adjusting your attitudes a bit to mesh with them better. They adjusted a bit too, but if I’d acted uncomfortable when they did things according to their socialization, I’d have missed out on their friendship.

Not that I’m not sympathetic, I dislike that kind of thing too, and I’ve asked people to stop doing it before. But you’ve got to handle it carefully or deal with the fallout. You’ve got to be gentle when making them understand your point of view or you’re going to be the jerk in their eyes. Look at it as a chance to prove you’re more socially adept and world-wise than they are.

Most definitely not, I can tell you. However I have to add that the touching is usually done between people of the same sex, not between men and women unless the involved people are very comfortable with each other (as in close friendship or flirtatious attraction).