My 19 year old son has been stealing from me. I don’t mean a few bucks out of my wallet for gas. I am talking stealing several credit cards and maxing them out, writing checks to himself and going to check cashing businesses to cash them and spending more money than he has in the bank knowing that I linked an account for overdraft protection.
To make matters worse, since I don’t normally keep balances on these three cards, I wasn’t expecting bills. He was getting the mail and hiding them from me. My credit is now severelyl damaged due to last payments and over the limit fees.
I finally found out when I received a phone call from American Express about a past due balance.
My son has spent thousands of dollars at games stores, target, walmart and restaurants. THOUSANDS of dollars. He would use one until it was no longer good. put it back in my wallet and take another one. When I finally found out what he was doing, I locked up all my cards in my safe. That is when he started stealing my checks. I noticed a couple were missing out of sequence but assumed I just forgot what I had written them to and would resolve it when I receive my statement. I then noticed an entire book of checks were gone so I called up the bank and had them do a stop payment. Apparently I did this the day after my son cashed a check at one of those cashing places for $200. Of course, it bounced which resulted in my getting a letter from the establishment that I am responsible for the “bad check” I wrote. After getting the copy, I saw to whom it was made payable. My option at that point was to file a police report or pay the darn thing to prevent my son being prosecuted. I paid it.
My son lives at home and attends college. He is currently working but was not working at the time. He has slept through his shifts and has gotten fired from every job he has held in the past year. I don’t know how long this job will last.
I want him to leave my home but he states he has no where to go. This is untrue because my ex husband is willing to take him in to try to straighten him out. My son refuses to move out and go there.
I am really devastated by this behavior. He was always such a good kid. Good student, responsible, great with his baby sister, gentle and kind. He graduated high school, started college and turned into a stranger. I know he doesn’t have a substance abuse problem. Apparently he is addicted to fast food and Nintendo Wii. (Which I am pretty sure he purchased with one of my cards last month).
I don’t know if there is any advice out there about this. I am just venting. I cannot believe this is happening. It is like Invasion of the Body Snatchers and someone replaced my son with an evil pod person.