If terrible experiences with other people are the result of the individual having them being terrible, are sucky experiences with other people the result of the individual having them being sucky?
You know what kind of people suck? Those who name themselves after last week’s media sensation song. I can handle a lack of empathy, but a demonstrated lack of imagination just torques my nuggets.
All or nothing thinking, like you’re describing here, is one of the ten types of distorted thinking patterns that cognitive behavior therapy sees as the basis for depression. See here:
You’re also displaying filtering and magnification.
It’s awful to think anyone thinks this way, but maybe it is because he is projecting his own situation and trying to figure out what he has done to deserve whatever has him so down on people.
His initial question is basically “does it suck in here, or is it just me?”
Unfortunately, many of the traits that have “succeeded” caused us to evolve into humans are crappy. Humans are often selfish and irrational critters, paranoid, clannish, scheming, greedy, etc. mostly tucked under a cloak of socially acceptable decency in order to make use of the advantages of society.
In spite of this, grand gestures of kindness and compassion abound. The OP, in spite of his misanthropy and unpleasant judgement of the rape victim, was willing to share his hotel room with her, even though she was a total stranger.
So: you don’t care about people; you don’t like what they say or do; you think they’re all jerks; you think you’re mistreated on this message board. So why are you bothering to ask our opinions? Just retreat into your little misanthropic world and eventually die alone.
yeah - I don’t believe that last part at all - combined with the other statements he’s made - there is no reason to believe anything he posts - so when he posts tidbits like
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And even if she is the innocent victim she portrays herself as, is she really too good for what she (claims she) experienced tonight?
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along with the earlier bolded comment - well - what do you think?
what I honestly think will get me modded, and I have no desire to give him the attention he wants by pitting him.
I immediately considered that perhaps his plan was to rape her and/or murder her, but why not take him at his word? He’s not exactly striving to paint a picture of himself as a caring and compassionate person.
because so far in his posts - i have no reason to - you make a valid point, of course, and generally I try to - but in this case - I just can’t.
I read it as one of two possibilites - the 3rd is not permitted to mention in this forum
a) he hoped to get some
b) “hey, look at me, I hate people but I was willing to help this other sucker that I don’t believe and I stated things I know will make people hate me to re-inforce the fact that all people suck”
While I agree a lot of people (myself sometimes) do suck, what you are saying again reflect on the solipsism you talked about in another thread, the fact that those kids will somehow affect you badly.
Really, it sounds more like you than other people have the issue. As you get older you get better at recognizing the jerks and assholes, and cutting them out of your life. Plus there actually are a good number of decent people out there. Nobody perfect, but people who you’d rather have in your life vs never met them.
Plus people can and do grow up to be medical and scientific researchers as well as assholes. Some kid could grow up to be an asshole, he could also grow up and help solve a disease you will eventually suffer from. There is no telling.
Let me ask you something Came in like a Wrecking Ball. Do you desire or crave social interaction at all? Do you experience a lot of fear or anxiety (or none at all)?