No, you aren’t the only one. Ever since I’ve been on this board there have been a revolving door of short-lived posters who have expressed similar sentiments. And the internet of full of misanthropic writings. You certainly aren’t the only one to feel as you feel, and I don’t understand why people keep saying this.
The thing is, it’s not considered very nice to expose those thoughts. Everyone has their own “bad” thoughts. But most people learn to keep their mouths shut because they’d rather not been seen as a jerk. And jerks are folks who walk around spouting off their unpopular opinions, regardless who may be offended
I’m sorry you’re going through bad times with people. I hope that one day you find someone who you can connect with.
For some reason I was expecting the linked video to be something else…maybe a plane full of puppies crashing into the side of a mountain…or a bus load of orphans falling into a volcano.
I’m pretty fed up with people too. Especially the ones with an entitlement mentality. I swear if I see one more sleazy lawyer ad on TV trying to get people to hire them to help them defraud the govt to collect social security disability…
I’ve been skeptical from the first post, but the remarkably busy 45 minutes between his posts 16 and 18, which included the writing them, removed all doubt for me.
So, when I first read this thread title, I rolled my eyes. Apathy, from my perspective, is a marker of real immaturity. Or weakness, take your pick. Life is hard. We don’t know why. No, it’s not fair. At some point you have to acknowledge that and get the fuck on with it. You have the power to make the world more fair, simply by acting out of compassion for your fellow human beings.
I used to feel the way you do. Betrayal and trauma play big in my personal history, so it’s not like I don’t understand where misanthropy comes from.
My solution was to go to school for social work. This was good because I learned not only to put my own experiences into a broader social context (made them less personal), but because I learned very quickly that many people had it much rougher than I did. Here’s one. You know some people don’t even get a chance at life? That girl probably never knew love in her life. Who am I to sit there and complain about how unfair life is when the deck has been comparatively stacked in my favor? Normally I’m not a fan of ‘‘it could always be worse’’ arguments but when you give up on humanity I say anything’s fair game.
Now 99% of the people I hang out with are not only concerned about suffering in the world, they actually do something about it rather than sitting around and bitching about how horrible the world is. The idea that most people are bad now seems simply ludicrous to me. There is so much good happening all over the place, if you just choose to look for it.
The problem with the world is that many people are lazy and give up rather than get to work. I include myself. It’s human nature. But it just makes me so angry. So much of the world’s suffering is preventable. If you think humanity is so bad, go do something about it, for Christ’s sake.
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Of all the things you have said - that is the most fucking despicable thing I’ve heard yet.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop blaming others for your own shit life, I know plenty of people like you, jealous of other peoples happiness, fix your own life first before blaming others, oh , you suck.
That OP is hurting. A lot. Logic is powerless against hurt. When you feel this way, it’s the way you feel. No one chooses to, because it doesn’t feel good.
The world is a bad place, and also a good place. Hurt, depression, and cynicism are appropriate reactions to events around us. Sometimes it’s almost impossible to see anything good. Events can trigger a kind of despondency about life… especially if other conditions in our lives are ripe for that kind of slide down the slippery slope. Sometimes I feel like I’m hanging on by my fingernails to keep from sliding down.
The OP might get somewhere if he could find someone to talk to who won’t judge, scold, or reason with him for his feelings. This board is NOT that place. Yeah, professional help would be good, but something tells me, the OP is not inclined to go that route for one reason or another right now.
To Came In, I would say, be patient with yourself, and just accept that this is where you are right now. EVERYTHING changes sooner or later. Years feeling well probably change, or at least shift, too. Don’t beat yourself up or tell yourself over and over again how bad you feel- or how little you feel. Look around for some compassionate help. IMHO what you’re feeling is perfectly normal for a time, but you don’t need or want to get stuck there.
The SDMB tends to pounce on anything that looks like weakness or whining, so you might want to shop around for a more sympathetic forum. My best to you.
Thanks. From time to time I have felt the way he feels. It ebbs and flows. It’s a lousy place to be. The OP probably came here knowing he would get his ass kicked. But ass kicking doesn’t really help you feel better… it just feeds you the punishment that deep down you think you deserve. It’s a hard place to bootstrap yourself out of. And it’s no picnic, even with help.
All people do suck in various ways sometimes, including you OP. But maybe your standards are too high. We can’t be 100% nice and do 100% the right thing all the time.
