On a related topic, why is so much porn about blowjobs? I like getting them as much as the next guy, but I really don’t want to see some dude getting one. I visit alt.binaries.multimedia.erotica occasionally (ok, frequently) and there is nothing more frustrating than enduring a long download, only to find it’s just some guy getting a knobber. I vicariously enjoy women being pleasured, but guys watching guys spooge holds no attraction for me at all. I mean, it’s not much different than watching some guy choke the chicken, and has a vaguely gay feeling about it. But, judging from the ubiquitous BJ on usenet, I am in the minority. Maybe it’s a dominance issue, I don’t know. So, I put it to you, Teeming Millions; of those males who indulge in porn, how many like watching other guys get blowjobs?
I suggest having your partner talk to you. Have them use many words with L`s in them.
Mark me down wirh ruadh in the category of “women who enjoy giving but not receiving.” Well, at least as far as the “fellatio/cunnilingus” equation goes. I don’t like giving or receiving cunnilingus; I really enjoy giving head.
For me, a lot of it’s a power thing…I’m going to do THIS and THIS to you, and throw in a dash of THIS, and you’re entirely at my mercy because you’re not going to feel any sensations I don’t give you, and you’re not going to get more than you’re currently getting until I’M ready for you to.
That said, there wouldn’t be a single reason for me to give head to a guy who didn’t want it, and I would sure as hell hope he’d tell me as soon as I started moving south. “Uhhh…I’m not really fond of that.” I might give him a surprised look, but I’m not gonna keep going. HE knows what he wants. I give fantastic head, but if you don’t like it at all, why should I bother? I hate green peppers. Period. End of story. Even if you make the best stuffed green peppers in the universe, I’m not going to like them, because I don’t like green peppers. shrug
Women who take it as a challenge and/or personal insult when a guy doesn’t want them to go down have control and ego issues which they should leave outside of the bedroom.
(I’m more than willing to have my mind changed on the cunnilingus thing, though.)
Oh, that’s not the case with me AT ALL! In fact … naw, never mind :o There’s no psychological basis to it whatsoever, it just physically doesn’t do much for me. I don’t mind it, if the guy wants to do it, fine, but he’s probably getting more out of it than I am.
ruadh: That’s why I prefaced it “For me…” 
I wish you’d post YOUR explanation…just because it has no particular psychological basis doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be interesting and informative.
Hmmm, I thought I did post my explanation:
shrug I don’t really know why it doesn’t turn me on, it just doesn’t. Sorry that’s probably neither interesting nor informative but that’s the best I can do …
Good sweet baby God, that’s hilarious.
I think I found a new sig.
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::runs away sobbing craddling his 2 pubic hairs in his hand::
I can’t believe I am posting to this topic, mostly because the subject is such a personal matter. That said, my opinion is that oral sex is great as a matter of foreplay. I am not at all comfortable with the idea (or the act) of ejaculating in a woman’s mouth. I cannot get past the idea that I have subjected a woman to an experience she would rather not have had. This is way TMI.
Louis, if you KNOW that she’d rather not have had that experience then you SHOULDN’T get over it…but don’t assume that there aren’t women out there who love it.
Believe me, dicks aren’t so fantastic that we’ll suck 'em down just because YOU want us to, there’s got to be some pleasure in it for me.
once again, my sig seems appropriate
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Atttention all males who do not like blowjobs:
Please feel free to forward all your spurned blow-jobs to me. Getting head is my very favorite passtime, and in my opinion is the greatest thing in the world, ever.
Some things may be “better than sex”, but nothing is better than a blowjob from a chic who knows what she’s doing.
I still weep daily for the loss (no, she didn’t die, it just didn’t work out) of a high-school girlfriend who loved nothing better than to suck a dick.
She could suck a Toyota through a school fence.
She actually liked to swallow.
She preferred giving head over intercourse. She got off on it. She was the avatar of the porno you watched at your brother-in-law’s bachelor party entitled "Cum-hungry Suck Sluts Lose Control! …volue MCMXCVII.
*But, Lex, how do you know it wasn’t just you? How do you know that the only reason she would rather suck you off than screw you isn’t simply because you weren’t knockin’ it out the box? *
Why, I’m glad you asked, Tyler. The answer is simple: That’s why it didn’t work out.
So anyway, any of you guys who have chics lining up to slother your johnson who don’t want them to, just refer them to me. I’ll take all the head I can get.
You do not get very many blow jobs, do you?
Do you get a can of whoopass handed to you when you do that?
Be happy to, if I ever, ever get any. 
I guess I’m a fence-sitter…I liked receiving head, but it’s not the ultimate fantasy. I would have said it’s better than intercourse, but I’ve grown more fond of intercourse since I met my wife.
The first time I received a proper blow job I was a bit shy and inexperienced, and I was a little surprised, as it was only the fourth date. She later told me I had a look on my face as if I was thinking “Maybe if I don’t say anything she won’t realize she’s giving me a blow job.”
I tend to think of oral sex more as foreplay than as an end in itself, as a couple of people have also said. I do enjoy both giving and receiving, but I want to move on to the main event at some point. I have a hard time getting off from cunnilingus–though it does feel really nice–and I’ve encountered a fair number of guys who put a little too much pressure on themselves to make it happen. Same thing on the other end for the guys who don’t care for it that much. Just explain to your partner that you like it and all, and it’s cool as foreplay, but it’s not the main event–or even that you’d be perfectly happy to dispense with it altogether. If your partner has a hard time listening and responding to your feedback, then there is a bigger problem.
You’re not the only one. I hate getting blowjobs, too.
The reasons, for me, are several:
- I see giving a blowjob as demeaning & receiving it as a power thing; this does not fit my personality
- I’m rather thick, so most mouths don’t fit well around my entire head without some teeth touching (ouch! boner killer!)
- Like you, I prefer activities that are more intimately “sharing”; 69 is too complicated – I’m focused 99% on giving her my best licking & the remaining 1% isn’t enough to keep my interest.
I’ve even had a blowjob from a pro (a girlfriend’s classmate, years ago); while she was good(& no teeth); I still found it lacking in intimacy.
I just tell women right up front that I don’t like them, but I’m VERY happy to give oral, with no expectation of reciprocation.
I don’t mind a VERY little bit of licking/etc. for the specific purpose of getting me ready (first time or again); I make a point of praising her, so she doesn’t feel any blows(NPI!) to her ego. . .
You laid in wait for a fucking half decade to make this your first post?
zombie or no
it takes time to acquire a data set.
I like them even less than the OP. I just don’t like the sensation itself. A mouth doesn’t tend to be warm enough. Plus all the reasons the OP himself cited. I’ve never come from one, ever, and most of the time I can’t even stay aroused. Just don’t like.
ETA: dammit! Freaking zombie thread I already posted to eons ago!
zombie or no
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ears are handles
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69
and 69 for some of the others.
At least we know you haven’t come to your senses yet.