My son has been out with his mates a few times now, and they have all gotten pissed out of there heads as usual, he got drunk for the first time and threw up and was literally on the floor asleep. But after this he tells me that he doesn’t get drunk as he used to, even when he gets tipsy he stops. He then tells me that he’s sick of being classed the ‘designated driver’ because all his friends act like idiots and he doesn’t . He says that he wants to get drunk though? I was thinking that it could be subconscience holding him back.
There may be something wrong with the OP!
Wow! The OP wasn’t there a second ago I swear.
Maybe he just needs new friends?
Huh? Is this for real? I’m confused. Are you saying that you want your son to get drunk more ? Really, this is not a good thing. Hopefully, it’s his better sense that’s holding him back. I never liked getting drunk. I liked the taste of beer when I was 5. Hated it as a teen and didn’t drink much until I was about 23 when I found a couple drinks and discovered a few beers that I actually enjoy. I’ve been drunk 4 times in my life. Usually, I just have 1 beer and I’m good. Getting sick is a thorough waste of time and sometimes, decent food. A little moderation never hurt anyone.
I agree. I like beer very much. But I never overindulge. I savor my one beer every other evening or so.
Your son sounds like he’s got more sense than you do.
Maybe he’s converting?
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So, I’m understanding the young fellah’s been drunk before. Now, he just gets his teeth numb and he stops? And his friends make fun of him and make him the DD? He needs to drink with a new crowd.
Send him my way. I’ll make a cirrosissed liver outta him yet. . .
Tripler
I don’t have fun unless I pass out. 
Well, Montezuma, with any luck, he will start drinking, and end up buying a bottle of wine, and some rum, and a six-pack of “tall boys”, and dowing them on a nightly basis. Perhaps, then, when he gets tired of this, he’ll move on to buying a couple of grams of coke a night, and along with this getting some porno films and end up jacking off to them for a number of years, and hopefully, if all is right with the (your) world, he will find himself without a job, and ready to slit his wrists, and maybe even bleed all over you when you find him on some floor, and maybe then you will congratulate yourself on you very intelligent upbringing of your much beloved son!!!
I’m not sure I understand what you’re saying. He used to get drunk, but now he doesn’t? Is it that he stops drinking, or that when he drinks it doesn’t have that effect on him any more? But then you said he got drunk for the first time, so what does that mean?
I’ve never understood the allure, myself. Go out and drink yourself so sopping drunk that you can’t remember what you did, then wake up the next morning nauseated, with a killer headache, and puke down the front of your shirt (on on the toilet, or on the car floorboards, or other places of less than pleasant locations). You’ve forgotten the fun parts (when you were drunk) and remember the hangovers, yet somehow want to do this again, over and over? Sounds idiotic to me.
As for the “designated driver” route, what is it that bothers him? That his friends all expect him to remain sensible and take care of them when they’re passed out? That he has to drive everyone around whereever they want to go and get them home? Do they take it for granted that he will be there? Or is it something with the attitude, some denigration about him?
Me, I don’t drink because of the above description, and because alcohol tastes like gasoline. But that’s just me.
“There’s nothing a sober man hates more than a drunk man, and nothing a drunk man hates more than a sober man.”
Sounds like your son got tired of making himself sick, but hanging with his mates just isn’t the same when he’s not wasted and they are. dilemma.
Sounds like there’s something right with your son, if ya asks me.
Just tell him it’s more fun being the sober guy in a crowd of drunks, because he’s the only one who will remember what embarassingly stupid things the rest of them did that evening – and is in the perfect position to blackmail them as a result…
Would you mind taking it down a notch?
Thanks.
Notcynical, that was out of line.
Montezuma, I understand where your son is coming from, and your attitude. I’m in Ireland, and we have the same attitude towards alcohol. It will differ from that in the States. We don’t see it as much of a boogieman as some of our American friends do.
You are worried about a percieved inability on your son’s part to interact with his “friends”. I guess he’s in his late teens? 18? 19?
His friends are discovering the joys of drinking legally. If like me, he didn’t drink much during his teens (I did occasionally, but hated lagers and I got drunk and sick really easily) his friends are making fun of him because he dosent like to get drunk.
Its not a fault on your part. And I think your OP may have had a slight case of Tounge in cheek
Most Kids his age are all about going out and getting drunk. He isn’t and you wonder if there is something wrong
He and his friends have yet to discover responsible social drinking.
Actually he has, but hasn’t realised it.
I was just going to say the same thing, Twisty - the son sounds like he’s gone right to responsible moderate drinking without spending too much time in the “let’s get trousered” camp. Nowt wrong with him at all. Of course, his friends are going to annoy the hell out of him by being too wankered to deal with. But, he can bask in the knowledge that he’s a responsible drinker of alcohol, that he can have a couple of beers (or cider, bein as how you’m in zummerzet) and leave it at that. He could say to them “I like beer, but I don’t like being falling down pissed. If I keep on drinking, I don’t enjoy the beer as much” The friends will catch on. If he makes his preferences for sensible drinking clear, ans acts with confidence, they may even respect him. I’d say he could maybe expect a little teasing from them, as they’re at a less mature point than he is, but I reckon he’ll ride it out.
Support your son in being who he is, and make it clear to him that you understand that his friends are being less mature than he is, and that you understand that it’s going to be annoying for him at times. Nowt wrong with him at all.
Another post from somebody who thinks there’s nothing wrong here.
Young men especially try to push the envelope with drink when they’re just starting to drink. Being the heaviest drinker on the block can add some kudos to your rep in certain circles. Your son obviously drank too much and didn’t like what it did to him. His friends will most likely realize that drinking till you’re sick isn’t that great and costs lots of money.
Don’t worry about him, he sounds like a very levelheaded guy IMO
Despite the hysteria displayed by some posters, it’s ‘normal’ in the UK for young men to get langered - gallons of scrumpy down Somerset way I’ll warrant.
I’ll add my agreement with the above 3 posts. For some people, drinking doesn’t agree with them. That’s fair enough, and mature of him for realising this early on.
Read his mind!