IMHO, any man who doesn’t give his woman satisfaction with cunnilingus doesn’t deserve to have a woman.
I fully agree that a man who gets his rocks off with a blowjob but then leaves his woman bereft of orgasm is beneath contempt.
I love to give cunnilingus, not only is it a spiritual bliss worshiping the sacred Goddess Yoni, but knowing that it fulfills my lady’s pleasure is more than reward enough. As for my own pleasure, I choose vaginal every time as the preferred place to orgasm. I don’t even know how many years it’s been since I had a blowjob, but I don’t care in the slightest. To me, sex is all about making the woman happy. When she’s happy, that’s all it takes for me to be happy. My own orgasm is just the icing on the cake.
Okay, so what are these secret techniques?! I’ve had years of experience without any jaw ache, but for some reason, in the past year, it’s been a problem. I thought it was because I chewed too much gum at work, so I stopped. Nope. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since the last time I did it, either…
I have no idea what I’m doing differently and any tips would be appreciated. I want to do my best and I’m annoyed by this development.
Jomo, you ain’t the only one! There are lots of men like you out there, and I’m one of them.
I very rarely get a BJ. I never bother asking for one. When I do get one it doens’t particularly blow my mind (maybe shes using the wrong technique, I don’t really know).
Satisfying my woman orally is something I love to do, it gives me great pleasure, and it makes her have good orgasms.
Well, I agree with Jomo, assuming the woman enjoys it.
But, I’m having real difficulty with the concept of cunnilingus on a mermaid. I’m not sure I’d know where to find her…target. Besides, ewwww…talk about a fishy smell!
I’ve said this before, but here it is again. I always have a strong sense, after the BJ is finished, that the woman has just done something she would rather not have done. I’ve been told often enough that that just isn’t necessarily true, but it’s the feeling I get. So, count me in with Jomo Mojo—I love giving a woman oral pleasure, to orgasm if she wants, and I like receiving as a form of foreplay. Being given oral sex to completion just isn’t something I want, need, or require.
No doubt my small town Texas Southern Baptist upbringing still influences my thinking.
Alright… I am going to chime in here too. I love orally pleasuring a woman. I could do it for hours on end. It is IMHO one of the most wonderful things in the world when you can make a woman feel that much pleasure… hopefully over and over again. I would even do it knowing that I wasn’t going to “get any” myself. I could be with a woman and didn’t like giving blow jobs, and while I would be a little disappointed, I would be more so if I wasn’t allowed to do it to her.
Now, that being said, I personally do not care if a woman is a spitter or swallower… Either way, this Canuck is happy. Who wouldn’t be?
As a gay man who enjoys both the giving and the receiving of head (and all the straight guys go ‘ew’), I feel the need to chip in here.
Oral sex is an art. And I’m dead serious about that. When you’re going down on your lover, you’re in complete control over the pleasure your lover is feeling, everything they’re experiencing at that moment is up to you. Tempo, technique, intensity… done well, it’s no less intense an experience than performing a good solo on a musical instrument, for instance.
There are advanced techniques which take a lot of practice to master, and shortcuts that will make men gasp. With practice, the kind of problems mentioned here (sore jaw, teeth) become second nature to overcome. You can play whole symphonies on your lover’s body; it’s a crying shame most folks don’t get past Chopsticks.
There are tons of sites out there that give tips on this topic. There was even a thread devoted to it in the BBQ pit a few months (or years, not sure) back. Take some time to study up on it, make a mental list of things you want to try on your mate, and ask if you can practice. Chances are, they won’t mind; it’s not like you’re learning to play the trombone. Well, kinda.
Learn what your partner likes, and what you like doing; practice, and get good at it. Treat it like any other hobby, except without the classes at the local craft store. Do research, experiment with new techniques, get familiar with your partner’s body and their reactions, and try and surpass yourself every time.
It’s a tremendous gift that you can give to your lover time and again. It’s worth putting some effort into.
I’m with Mr. Visible, except I’m a straight woman who’d rather be electrocuted than recieve oral. (For everyone who is going to chime in that they can do it better than everyone who I’ve let try it on me, sure. Whatever. When I start screaming and kick you in the teeth, we’ll have this chat again.)
I love giving, I’m good at it. Keep your tongue off my nether regions, drop your pants and we’ll all get along just fine.
I’m a man, and of all the sexual things people can do or have done to them, the BJ is definitely not my favorite. It takes me forever to get there, and I’m self-conscious about her jaw getting tired, her neck hurting, her being able to breathe, etc. I’ve never asked for oral, and it takes several times practicing with the same woman before I’m able to enjoy it. Then when she’s finally able to make me come like that, it’s good because she feels like she’s accomplished something.
However, I want a woman who loves getting head. I hope I meet a woman who can’t live without it, appreciates it, and sometimes actually demands it. One time I offered to go down on a woman I was seeing, and we went to bed. I started kissing her, y’know trying to get her in the mood, and she said “Would you just get to work, please? I don’t need foreplay!” Normally that would’ve turned me right off, but in context… whoo boy! I still get turned on thinking about that. God damn.
Uh, Medea. Remember when I offered you a ride to a doperfest. Well, …I changed my mind. :eek:
[sub]Wait a minute! Did you say “drop your pants and we’ll all get along just fine.” I almost quit reading too soon.[/sub]
Gothcha. Well, her hands should be manacled behind her back; snug, but not enought to cut off circulation. A kneeling pillow is a thoughtful touch. The ears can then be used as handles, or better yet, pigtails or braids.
What makes it for me is knowing how much she enjoys it. Plus, there is an awful lot of trust involved in the way you describe. I wouldn’t want a girl to give me head who only did it because I wanted it. Resentful felatio is a sad thing.
