I have to agree with our little men-for-cunnilingus club going on here. I love getting blowjobs, but giving to a woman is at least as good. In the original post there was a question as to whether men liked blowjobs because of the control. Actually I like giving cunnilingus because of the control. It is a wonderful thing to know that you are in complete control of another person’s pleasure. You can tease and torment before leading to the coup de grace.
Also MrVisible has the right idea, though I differ on the choice of recipient. Hell, I have read books and articles about giving cunnilingus, practiced, experimented and played and it always gets better. Definitely worth the research. It is true that some women don’t return the favor, but I find the kind of women I want to have a relationship with are the kind that really appreciate the attention and demand their turn to please.
Someone did say earlier that it is better than a simutaneous. I cannot agree with that. There is nothing as good as hitting that peak together except when you have been able to time it so its her second. (God, I miss that woman, sigh)
Hey, I’m a Charter Member (sorry) of that club. But, I don’t agree that it’s “at least as good”. It’s great; don’t get me wrong. But, without some dim prospect of reciprocity, well…wait until it’s been ten years since you got a BJ.
Oh, and I totally agree with Simbelmyne; resentful/obligatory head is a sad, sad thing. Hence, the ten years. I think I’d rather pay a pro to do it (though, I’m not sure about that, never having done it…it might be creepy), than ask a loved one to do it, knowing she’d hate it.
I don’t get much from it … in fact, B gets more than I do from it. However, she enjoys oral (on her, not on me) a good deal … so much so that it’s become rather a staple of our life, so to speak;)
It’s odd … I get kinda close with some stuff, but there’s only the one thing that crosses the finish line. I think that’s mostly why I don’t care much either way. If she wants to, fine. If not, no biggie. I get more from vaginal anyway.
Another one chiming in to say that I don’t enjoy getting oral sex but love giving it. I’ve just never been able to relax enough to receive it gracefully. I’m constantly thinking, “Can he breath? I wonder what he’s thinking. Do you think he might be thirsty? Am I supposed to be this tense?”
Plus, I’m not at all enamoured with vaginas. They’re funny looking to me and I find that my mind often wonders to thoughts of what mine must’ve looked like 10cm dialated and giving birth. Partner also saw that, and I wonder if he imagines it as well.
When I’m on the giving end of things, I am not at all self-concious so I can relax and enjoy it.
Another hetero female here who would rather give than receive. I only enjoy receiving if the guy is really, really good at it - otherwise it just does nothing for me whatsoever, I would honestly rather trim my toenails.
Another interesting phenomenon I notice about myself: I don’t know if I consider oral sex to be less “intimate” than regular intercourse, but I do know I have to be really comfortable with a woman before I’ll “go all the way” with her. However, I have no such reservations about giving head. I’m not a “sleeping around” type of guy. I’m just not. But I could probably enjoy casual, committment-free cunnilingus with any woman I was mildly attracted to. Go figure.
I’d say the power and control aspects of the act are way more interesting and exciting than the physical aspects. Knees, 69, head over the edge, or even the man being tied up – there’s a lot of submission/singular focus that can be intensly erotic, not to mention taboo in some circles.
As for the senations, I’ll take regular sex over oral, since oral doesn’t get it done for me – but I take forever to climax though, so perhaps I can’t generalize.
Pricegal said that to me as well. But then again she claims that sex with me is better than any sex she’s ever had with a girl, so apparently she’s not to be trusted.
Anahita, you hit the nail on the head (so to speak) for why, in my experience, most women who have a problem recieving feel that way. A lot of women just seem to have this revulsion with parts of their own bodies and do not understand a man who does not feel that way. Vaginas are attractive. Everyone is different and they are the seat of your femininity. I guess it is a societal thing that many women feel this way about not just vaginas, but their whole bodies. If we are wiggling our heads down there, take it as a confirmation that we think you, all parts of you, are attractive.
Oh, and a side note, shaving makes guys want to give you oral sex more. We can see what we are doing better, you don’t get that wet matted fur going on, none stuck in the teeth, and extra hair has a tendency of numbing out the tongue when you are wiggling it around down there for the better part of an hour. Just something to think about as you don’t have to deal with our hair quite as much when giving head. Not that a thick layer of carpetting will stop us, but the lack of it makes life easier as well as being a turn on.
