I figured it out! the secret is. . . .


yes. confidence. The most important trait of all. I have decided to use my 100th post to let everyone in on this secret that I’ve known for quite some time now. I have several male friends that say confidence is quite the turn on. It has to be genuine though. I think that this will answer many Dopers’ questions on * How to pick up chicks * and * How to meet new people *, including mine. Perhaps social success will reign for all who subscribe to shyness and anxiety as the root of their problems. Just be sure of yourselves. :smiley:
p.s. not overriding ** 42, ** but i think this is a bit more practical