I resolved that today, no matter what, I would tell a particular girl that I was interested in her.
I couldn’t reach her over the phone, and knowing that I would just use this as an excuse to procrastinate on this like I’ve done before, I wrote her an email telling her my feelings.
There’s no taking it back now. I’m going to get an answer. For good or bad. The worst that could happen is she could say no, and things stay the way they were.
Good for you. Some smart poet guy said something once about how the saddest words in the English language were “What might have been”. I suspect he was right.
You told a lady you “were interested in her” and as a vehicle for you’re romantic overture you chose email.
Try to think really hard about all of the romantic scenes you’ve ever seen in a movie or heard described to you by others. Did any of them involve email (excluding of course virtual and or long distance relationships)?
You couldn’t have waited until you were actually in her presence?
Look. If you want to do this sort of thing you’re going to have to learn how to do it right.
OK Ladies. For Blalron’s sake here, if a friend were to let you know he had an interest in becoming more than friends, what approach would be the most likely to be well received.
And if any of you say email I will eat a garage mechanic’s shirt.
She wants to be friends, and has made it clear that for now at least, that’s all she’s interested in. But she really does want to be friends.
Good for you; it can be terrifying, but if you come out of your shell, you find that even rejection (which you did NOT get) is better than not knowing.
I think an e-mail can work, but you have to go about it the right way. Don’t just explain that you want to be more than friends; you can’t be analytical about something that’s supposed to be about passion. Invite her someplace, could be special or casual, but make it absolutely clear that you’re asking for a date. Only the bold deserve the fair.
I’ve been on the receiving end of this a couple times myself, and I’d argue that it can be worse than rejection.
Jackelope’s analysis is correct – she really does like you, really does want to be friends, and really does hope that this won’t lead to feelings of weirdness that would prevent this.
I’m female, BTW, and wouldn’t necessarily have a problem with receiving an email on this, despite what Degrance said – depending on how out of the blue it was, it might be nice to have some time to come up with a reaction without making an idiot of myself in person. (This is so for both a “yay” and an “ew” reaction.)
So, talk to her when you get the chance. She’ll get to know you in a no-pressure situation. If/when things don’t work out with the boyfriend, you’ll already be a friend. A friend, in fact, who knows what the last guy did to get dumped. Aaaaaaand, if nothing comes of it, you’ll have gotten lots of practice talking to a purty gurl.
But I’m just being a nag… hope it turned out OK