I don’t think this is the case, or that it’s very fair (ses she, chiming right in as an ‘attractive woman’ :rolleyes:). But I’ve dated on Plenty of Fish for some months, and as I have a good social life as well I get asked out or emailed by guys quite a lot. It’s not true that women (most, all, some, whatever) don’t answer emails because they’re arrogant or because they get so many they can’t be bothered - sometimes you just don’t know what to say and not hurt the other person. Or it’s because I’m, genuinely, just out of a messy relationship/busy at work/happy being single right now, and I think if I say that it will just sound like a line. (Not on PoF when I was on it, as it’s a dating site, but when guys chat me up or ask me out in the pub and I tell them I’m just not interested in anybody right now, they get this look like, Yeah yeah, I get it.)
In the OP’s case, the fact that it was a business situation and that you exchanged busines cards means even less than an email from a dating site. Kudos to the OP for trying, really, but I know if I got an email like that I would start thinking things like, ‘Shit, does he mean just a bike ride or is he asking me out? If I say I’d like to go on the bike ride, but add I don’t want to see anyone right now, but he didn’t mean it like that, I’ll embarrass him and come across as really big-headed. But, if I go on the bike ride, and he does mean it to be something else, then I’ll feel like I’m leading him on.’
So there are three aspects here - do I accept the bike ride offer or not?, Is there more to it or not?, and, Should I initiate a discussion on this beforehand or not? Given that I probably thought it was just a business chat, or I’m just chatting to someone in the pub because it’s fun, can you blame me for thinking it’s easier just to not reply?
I am genuinely a very polite person who would quite literally inconvenience myself rather than make someone feel embarrassed or awkward. (Idiots and rude people excepted :p.) I would not think I was being rude if I didn’t answer an email like the OP’s, I just wouldn’t know what to say and it would seem the lesser of two evils. YMMV etc etc.