I did find out that video games are “not her thing.”( No, I didn’t go on and on about video games! It came up in conversation that my brother bought a Gamecube for my nephews last Christmas, seemingly alleviating the problem of figuring out what to get them (games, of course!) but they’re still too young to really know what kind of games they want. )
However I don’t really feel pressure to meet some arbitrary expectations now; if things work out so that we have a long-term relationship, great. If not, it’s OK too. I think in a way this has been easier than dating my previous girlfriends because in each of those cases I knew them before we were dating and there was always the fear that if we broke up then we’d have to deal with awkward moments where we used to have simple friendship before. No such fear here.
Girl here…I agree with the mystery thing…don’t tell her how you picked what you were wearing, look like you knew all along…also don’t spill about weight, family, finances, work…just light conversation that makes it sound like you have it all together.
Don’t fall all over her either…“whatever you want” is not the answe we want to hear - you’re supposed to be in control - you asked US out.
Yeah, we’ve got mystery aplenty so far. No real talk about deeper things yet or personal history, just general stuff about work and family, ie., what we do at work, number of siblings, favorite football teams, etc., (remember, we both work at the same company, so we did have that in common already). Went on two dates and have tentative plans for a third probably next week.
We were set up by a mutual friend, the wife of one of my co-workers.
Not a whole lot in the way of immediate sexual attraction, perhaps partially because we’re mostly bundled up for winter here already (hard to get a look at the goods, so to speak.) She’s not ugly, but not a knockout either. I’m not ugly, not a knockout myself; another thing we have in common, I guess. She has an easy, natural smile, which I think is her most attractive physical characteristic so far.
