So, I just got back from a funeral. Well, actually it was a memorial service I suppose, in church, after a private family cremation service. I don’t believe in God though, sorry… so I am wondering why I went and whether I should have.
Does it comfort the bereaved, do you think, that non-believers should attend… does it show solidarity…respect… affection? Or do you think they think ‘what a hypocrite’? Personally, I don’t feel like a hypocrite… I think I went because I was asked to, and I was happy to go and show that I liked and respected the deceased and wanted to say how I would do what I could to comfort and assist those left behind, as it were.
I never know what to say either… ‘I am sorry for your loss’…err, well, I am… but I don’t speak that way, it sounds daft. ‘My condolences’… another word I can’t remember using a whole lot. ‘If there is anything you need’… well, at least I meant that one, but even then… a little voice says in my head “Well, within reason obviously… I can’t quite manage funding a couple of weeks in Jamaica which might do you the world of good”
Ach, don’t know why I am posting this… I just hate these things.