Years ago I developed an intense, crazy, and stalkerish crush on a friend and co-worker. My normal way of dealing with these things is to avoid the person and I have managed to do that for over five years. But now she has shown up in my dreams twice in the past week just saying, “We have to talk. In private.”
No, we don’t. You are not real and, in many ways, the woman in my fevered imagination back then wasn’t real either. It was a very painful period for me and the only good that came out of it was that it forced me into therapy and onto medication. Your real self didn’t help then by poo-pooing my feelings and insisting we still hang out. Your dream self isn’t helping now.
I am sick of being stalked by my own imagination. :mad:
I know exactly how you feel, my friend. I was in love with a girl in high school who moved to Greece. We lost touch a long time ago, but every once and a while she still pops up in a dream. This starts a whole mess in my head of thinking about her again.
Once a few years ago she got stuck in my head again and I couldn’t get her out. At my brother’s suggestion I wrote her a song. She’ll (most likely) never hear it, but I found it to be quite therapeutic. If you’re not a musician, just write her a letter. Get it all out of your system. I’m not promising it will work, but it did for me.
Same here, Ashtar. My high school crush pops up in a dream fairly regularly, and I haven’t seen her for over a decade. Then I can’t stop thinking about her for a few days. It’s extremely frustrating, especially since I’m almost sure she’s married now. Sigh.
Heh, you guys have an excuse. When this crush happened I was in my mid forties and married for twenty years but I was mentally transported back to being sixteen.
Y’know one thing I’ve learned, being a member of this board, is that everything I thought was crazy/gross/weird about myself is actually pretty normal!
I’m 26, and I still have dreams a few times a year about the guy I had a crush on in Junior High.
This is uncanny. Just last night I had a dream about someone I used to like in high school (well over ten years ago). I hadn’t thought about her in ages. Maybe it’s something to do with Valentines Day this week that’s bringing out the old ghosts in dreams?
You know, I placed this in the Pit because I expected to get lit into for my old adulterous thoughts and near-stalker (where does moping like a highschooler end and stalking begin?) behavior. Little did I know you’d get all MIPSIMS on me.
If you hadn’t written this, I would have. All through high school I had a massive crush on this guy in my class, who was a casual acquaintance. I’m coming up on the 5-year anniversary of graduation, yet he still pops up in my dreams from time to time, either completely ignoring me or ahem being much friendlier than in real life, if you get my drift. I feel a bit guilty about this–I’m in a serious relationship, but I suppose I have little control over my subconcious. I feel like saying “Go away! I’ll never see you in real life!”
