"I saw her again last night..."

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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“… and I knew that I shouldn’t.”
(Phillips-Doherty)

And it wasn’t the first time. She was my high school and college sweetheart. We were, more or less, a steady couple for seven years. After all that time, the breakup was like a divorce. Essentially, I left her for another woman, to whom I’ve now been married for over 20 years.

Before anyone jumps on my case, I have to point out that I saw her in a dream, not in reality.

It’s weird. For over 20 years, I’ve had a recurring dream about her. On average I’d say the dream occurs about once a month. The dream theme is always similar and it always ends the same way… where her and I are together.

This used to disturb me, but it no longer does. I recognize that it is just my unconscious mind “escaping”, because these dreams seem to occur when I’m under some sort of stress. This thread describes my current stress.

Driving in to work this morning, recalling the dream, this sprung into my head…

“When I find myself in times of trouble,
then she comes and visits me,
speaking words of wisdom,
be with me. Be with me.”
(With apologies to Lennon/McCartney.)

That’s all. Mindless, pointless, and all that.

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I’ve had the same thing. High school sweetheart, first love, etc. And a recurring dream that we’re together, or that we have the potential to be. Similarly, I get the dreams when under stress. I wake up feeling like I’ve been punched in the stomach.

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For some reason I can only picture Mr. Burns floating through the window.

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Yup. I have a similiar dream periodically. I had the best relationship with my high school and college sweetheart. After it eventually ended, I spent a long time searching for the same thing again before realizing I might let my entire life slip by. Later on I got married. It’s a different relationship and probably better for the long term. We’ve been married sixteen years. But I still miss my HS sweetheart, and I still have those dreams. These days I just figure I was pretty lucky to have had a time like that in my life.

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It is reassuring to discover that I am not the only one who experiences this phenomenon. Fascinating.