Well, in relation to the OP, I don’t think that was the kind of show he was asking about… however, you’ve struck a creepy kinda nerve in me now. Am I a clingy Nice Guy / emotional blackmailer?
Gasp. :eek:
I never thought about that before. Well. Hmm.
This part sounds like the person is talking out of their ass. Too fast or too slow? How is a guy supposed to know, especially if he has never had experience having feelings for a girl/asking her out before?
“Oooh, sorry, I’ve only known you for a week you creepy stalker.”
“Oooh, sorry, you shouldn’t have waited three month to ask me out, you unassertive weakling.”
It’s not like we get a fucking manual that gives us a window of time.
And as for the nice guy thing, I resent that it was even brought up in this thread. I personally have never compromised who I am as a person in order to win someone’s favor. I probably could have if I really felt like it, and then I might actually have a girlfriend right now. But personally I feel it’s more important to be who I am than to try to be someone else just to win a girl’s favor. If she doesn’t accept me for me, then why the hell would I want anything to do with her?
You could gasp ask her. This happens to me all the time, and I appreciate it. Try it sometime (don’t forget to smile, relax, and speak clearly): “I know we’ve only just met, so would it be too soon to ask you to coffee?” If she is at all interested in you (and not insane) this will indicate to her that:
1) you are concerned about her comfort,
2) you are assertive and confident
3) you are interested in her (which is always nice)
If you are a bit shy, ask her on a low-pressure date (anything involving more than just you and her- like a Bad Movie night with your friends).
I think you missed the whole point of the Nice Guy label. What you’ve described is exactly the opposite of a Nice Guy.
From your other posts, you sound like a genuinely good guy with high standards and a healthy ego. I’m sure you’ll be a dynamo in the dating world once you actually get out there 
Great minds must think alike - I was just thinking of searching the archives for that particular strip and linking it
There is no way for me to tell online (obviously I wasn’t even very good at it IRL :smack: ), but the very fact that you listened to your girlfriend when she told you to quit it instead of rationalizing your behavior away and dismissing her concern tells me you are probably okay.
Another clue is that you are worried about maybe being a Nice Guy- I know it seems counterintuitive, but an actual Nice Guy would just be offended and take this as proof that all women are heartless bitches who can’t appreciate his specialness.
As you all can see, I’m a bit new here. Does the Nice Guy debate deserve its own thread? In which category (Great Debates?)
I’d say yes, assuming you want to continue it. Either here if you want it to be more lighthearted, or in Great Debates if you want a more serious look at the Nice Guy label and what it actually means.
I’m thinking The PIt would be both more appropriate and more fun.
I’ve started a thread in the Pit.
I would say be gentle, but I know y’all too well.
See this thread: Losing virginity