This is so revealing, please bare with me. I was just wondering if there were any other guys out there like me.
When I watch porn, I like it when the actresses are well endowed. I especially like it when the action is focused on the melon area. But in real life, I’m actually not all that attracted to these big-breasted women. I wouldn’t lust after them. I actually prefer girls that I would say are more flat chested and skinny. However, I don’t like watching porn with flat chested women.
Also, I find that I like to watch porn featuring Caucasian women but in real life I find that I tend to be more attracted to oriental women (I’m oriental). However, I don’t like watching films with oriental women in them.
Maybe it is best to give some examples. (The following links are safe for work and in good taste.) For porn films, I like girls like Brianna Banks and Jenna Jameson , while in real life I would actually be more attracted to girls like Gigi Leung and Liu Yi Fei.
Any idea why I’m like this? Any other guys out there like me?
I don’t automatically associate big breasts with porn stars, but I’m certain I wouldn’t want to date my stereotypical porn star in real life. I’m not the type to fool around. I will only like girls if I think there is mutual attraction and a genuine potential for love in the relationship.
Porn is fantasy. People fantasize about things that sound neat but they might not necessarily partake of in real life. It isn’t that you find large breasted women unattractive it’s just that you tend to gravitate towards women who don’t look like cartoon characters. Before I get jumped on I want to say that I know large breasted women don’t look like cartoon characters but the types of women you tend to see in mainstream porno look about as realistic as Jessica Rabbit.
I was watching a show on HBO about the porn industry, Going Down in the Valley I think, and one of the performers they highlighted was a transexual woman. She still had a penis and the weird thing is that heterosexual males accounted for the majority of her fans. Like I said, it’s fantasy, and what people fantasize about might not be the same as what they want in real life.
I would like to add that I don’t feel any “love” in porn films. They are all based on pretty much the same script and there is no genuine affection and feeling. Perhaps I have sub-consciously associated big-breasted Caucasian women with having no genuine affection because of all the porn I have watched.
I value genuine love and feelings in a relationship above all else. I need a women who supports me and tells me that I can achieve my dreams.
…I just realized that the fact that I tend to like flatter chested oriental women might be caused by my upbringing. Both my sister and my mother are overweight individuals and are not of the flatter chested variety. They have never really supported me in trying to achieve my dreams and I get a feeling of strained love in my family due to regular fighting. This steers me towards women that are not like them.
However, that does not explain why I tend to like oriental women in real life but not women of other ethnicities. It also doesn’t explain why I only watch porn films of big-breasted Caucasian women.
Perhaps, subconsciously, you tend to be attracted to women in real life with whom you could picture yourself having a serious relationship with, maybe even marrying – and that, for various reasons related to your upbringing, your expectations and those others have for you, and the situations in the past in which you’ve felt comfortable or not, you think it is more likely that such a person would be of Asian ancestry, like yourself … but that doesn’t necessarily translate into your finding such a person “sexy” in the immediate-gratification sense of the word.
I’ve experienced both types of boobage. The extreme big boobers were a HUGE let down and have since turned me off of that sort of thing. In porn though I guess I can still get aroused by huge boobs. Its not like its something id seek out though. So i guess I am a little like the OP.
I’m sorry, I just can’t stop snickering long enough to read the rest of the thread before pointing out that this, sir, is divine. You are a genius if it was on purpose, and an unwitting wit if it was a typo.
Things like this seldom have one answer. Psyches are more complicated than that. Yes, you probably don’t want to have a sexual partner who reminds you of your mother or sister. Yes, you might not want to date a porn star (or a woman who reminds you of a porn star). Yes, big breasted women IRL are not like big breasted women in porn – because most women IRL don’t act like women in porn, period. Porn feels best for the camera, not the participants. Whenever I see some arched back woman with a guy standing nearly two feet away from her so the camera can see the penetration, I’m wondering why her poor clitoris and mons are so lonely…but I digress…
Physically, most porn star implant enhanced breasts don’t act or look like natural large breasts, especially once the bra comes off. Natural large breasts are more squishy, so they don’t feel like you’d expect them to, they tend to flap more than bounce, and they dart off to hide under her armpits at random moments. They are not huge peaked mounds of quivering delight. So it may just be entirely aesthetic.
OR, you may just not have met the right big-breasted woman yet. It might not be a “type”, it may just be the luck of the draw. I am nowhere near my husband’s ideal, nor he mine, nor were we when we met and fell in love. But once we met each other, “type” became a moot point.
It’s commonplace to fantasize about far different things than you actually seek in real life. It stands to reason that if fantasy is often about things you can’t have, it will often be about things you don’t even necessarily want.
In porn, I go for very stereotypical twinks and hunks, whereas IRL I find stereotypically gorgeous guys to be very intimidating, even (on those extremely rare but existent occasions when) they’ve flung themselves at me. I much prefer, and have much better sex with, geeky guys who are cute but not porn-star-looking. They wouldn’t necessarily photograph well but they are damn hot in person.
I used to like big boobs in porn and small boobs in real life. Then I had a series of four sexual partners in a row with 36C racks, and at some point I started to really like that size. Which was cause and which was effect, I can’t tell you. But mainstream traditional “cartoon character” porn has turned me off since about 8th grade. That said, I would argue that the pornographic mainstream has shifted far toward the ideals of amateurism (or faux-amateurism, anyway) in this decade. It’s getting harder and harder to find “cartoon character” porn in the newer releases. Then again, maybe I’m just focusing on what I watch.
Yep, I think I tend to like girls who I think I can have a serious relationship with. I think you might be right in that I might be subconsciously selecting girls who I think look similar to me because we would be compatible in backgrounds and personalities. I like to be playful and carefree. I think that is also a reason why I like flatter chested girls. I think they look more innocent looking.
However, I still find skinny, flatter chested oriental girls to be very cute and sexy.
The start of the original post was unintentional I was much more focused on writing the rest of post. I guess it’s my subconscious at work.
Yes, if I met a big-breasted women and we are genuinely compatible, I wouldn’t reject her just because she has big breasts. I think I just actively pay more attention flatter chested oriental girls.
I think I just had a revelation. The reason why I don’t like to watch porn films with flatter chested oriental women is that I think of them as potential soul mates and don’t want to see them exploited. I often watch mainstream oriental movies and like them very much. I love the Hong Kong movies where the actresses are often flatter chested, playful and show a depth of character.
The reason why I only watch porn films with big-chested, Caucasian women is because I was brought up in Canada where much of the media portrays the sexy women as blonde, big-chested, and promiscuous. This is reinforced through the endless TV shows and movies. When I go to select porn, I will naturally gravitate towards this genre because it is what I have been taught as being sexy. I won’t select films with women of other ethnicities because their sexiness has not been ingrained into my mind.
Like what? Degrassi? Slings & Arrows? Or do you just mean shows coming in from the US? (And yeah, I know Pam Anderson is Canadian). And busty blondes everywhere may have a wee bit of a problem with your stereotyping of their kind.
I was much more focused on writing the rest of post. I guess it’s my subconscious at work.