I like her things, but I'd rather keep my aunt.

My aunt “Jane” is the older sister of my father. For most of Jane’s married life she and “Al” lived in California, but due to failing health, not quite two years ago they moved here to Kansas to be near the rest of the family. Jane and Al never had children, so her brother, we nieces, and so on, have been helping out.

Jane is now in hospice care, and Al is in a nursing home. After the first of the year their house will be sold. Jane collected beautiful things, china figures of angels, cut glass serving pieces, Franciscanware, and so on. Now some of those treasures are going to the family, and today she had out all the cut glass, and had designated certain items for each of us, with extra pieces we could ask for. A cousin was supervising, as she is experienced in antique dealing and art fixtures. Jane just sat back(she had made the effort to be there and it was wearing on her) and reminicsed about the history of the items.

I loved it all, and got seven lovely pieces of glass. I could have had even more but didn’t want to seem too greedy. But I’d rather be keeping Jane and Al, than getting their things. They have been such nice people, good family. It’s a shame they were never parents, they would have been great at it I think. I remember at my wedding, before the ceremony, Jane didn’t think the lace edge of my train was flowing correctly, so she was down on her knees, in her own long dress, basting the scalloped edge with white thread. I married in California, and she took my shopping to get my veil(the gown was homemade by a friend).
She has been recalling stories of when my family would visit, like the time in 1964(I was nine)when she says I was reading out loud from the National Geographic magazine to my sister, about the Good Friday earthquake in Alaska. I don’t remember that, but she says I seemed to know and understand all the vocabulary.

It’s a damn dirty shame for Jane(Al isn’t all that aware by now) to see her stuff going out of her hands. I know, I know, it ends up happening to everyone who lives long enough. But @#$%^&*, that doesn’t mean I have to like it!

That’s quite sad. I’m sorry for your aunt and uncle’s health problems. I hope that it gives her some comfort to know that the pieces will continue to be cherished within the family, and hopefully you can pass their history on to the next generation too.
It sounds like they are lucky to have a large, loving family to be there for them at this stage of life.

I suppose it’s better happening now, with her approval, than her things being fought over by shirt-tail relatives after she passes. At least this way she got to see everyone, even if it’s a rather morbid occasion.

Get some nice stationary, and write to Jane. Tell her that you remember her basting your wedding gown train, and things like that. Trust me, she will cherish that letter for as long as she lives, and it will be easy for her to take care of.

Lynn, I don’t have to write, she’s here in town and I see her often.

You know, now that she’s older and her face has thinned, it’s amazing how much she matches memories of my grandmother, her own mother. There seem to be very strong facial “genes” in that line, the cousin I mentioned, one of my sisters, a couple of other great nieces, and so on, all have the same profile.

Jane and Al were cat people. I guess they filled the spot that kids would have had. All their cats over the years lived to great old ages. On that 1964 visit Jane took us across the street to see a litter of kittens that a neighbor had, and that she would be getting one of. Then, in 1975, when I was marrying in California and visited them, that same cat was still in their house. She misses not having a pet, so we got her a stuffed cat that has a battery in it, and when stroked it meows, moves its head, and swishes it’s tail.

It’s sad to lose people you love, or to realize that you will be losing them soon. Your aunt sounds like a wonderful person.

I don’t think it’s a morbid occasion, though. I imagine she enjoys giving gifts, and will enjoy knowing that you have things she knows you love, and she had an opportunity to pass on the history of them, and why they were special to her. This way she gets to be pleased that you have them, and to know that things went to the folks she wanted to have them, or who she knows will love them as much as she did. And you can know, in the future, that it really was a gift that she gave to you, meaning and wanting you to enjoy it.