What a freaking thankless job this is. I have one absolutely great stepkid, one stepkid who’s typical, and one who’s not a good kid. The typical package, in other words, whether children of my own loins or not.
I FREAKING HATE STEP-PARENTING. I love my stepkids, try to be their back-up parent but not horn in on the parenting job, and support them by coming to their games, watching their dogs, getting them tuition waivers to the uni where I work, etc.
In return?
All good things I do for them = taken absolutely for granted by the stepkids and my husband. WITHOUT EXCEPTION.
Anytime I screw up = evil stepmother of legend, aka Snow White’s step-mom. All previous good deeds, forgotten and wiped out.
No matter how much I love these kids, and I DON’T FREAKING DO IT FOR A REWARD, DAMMIT, I will NEVER EVER be loved back in the same way. I will NEVER be the one they want to see. I will ALWAYS be left out of the family photos, the last one (if freaking ever) to hold their new baby. The one whom, despite helping them endless times with their high school history paper, Spanish verbs, and English projects, does not EVEN MERIT A GODDAMN TICKET TO THEIR GRADUATION. And everyone in the family of origin is all right with this. And me? I KEEP MY F^&*ING MOUTH SHUT AND WAIT FOR THEM AT HOME because it’s their freaking day, and it’s not my job to create the drama. OH NO. That’s their BIOLOGICAL PARENTS’ job. And don’t they do it well!
I will be worse than a second-class citizen in their lives for my entire life in theirs, as well as however long I endure in their children’s lives. And yet, I love them still. I will continue to do my best for them. BUT:
I AM SO FREAKING SICK OF THIS AND IT REALLY, REALLY SUCKS.