Yea, learn that insults happen to everyone and dont get worked up about them. Yes people are ignorant but it is not your place to teach them otherwise, espeicially not through Bullying and verbal abuse.
Channel the rage into some sort of sport.
And do somthing about the dog if it gets easily ‘riled up’ like its owner.
hehe, my dog just tries to mirror my mood, she doesn’t know any better… I guess I need to be the better role-model for her hehe.
Rage into some sport? I think not, I gave up sports because am I such a hot-head. I’m too competitive and an asshole on the court when playing pick-up ball with friends. I need a better outlet, preferably something that doesn’t involve people hehe.
Yes- some therapy and better living through pharmacuticals. You need serious help for either a rage issue or a pathalogical lying issue, I’m not sure which. Either way, I think you need professional help.
All I see here is a major over-reaction from all of you.
Hell why don’t you go all the way and sue - that is the usual course of action isn’t it!
Maybe take up some form of martial art? :dubious:
I think one word is too little to get enraged about, especially since a 12-year old does not necessarily really understand what it means. I remember when I was in junior high, we called each other every bad name we could think of, even those that didn’t apply (i.e. I’d tell my white friend to “don’t steal my pencil, nigger”, and he’d tell me “chill out, you ho”). Not a very admirable phase, but we grew past it. We never used “chink”, which is odd, since I am indeed a chink, but we probably would have had it entered into our repertoire. We did use “fag”, “skank”, “negro”, “cracka”, “fuckface” and all its wonderful variations, “twat”, “dyke”, “band-aid” (I still have no idea what this means), “gook”, etc…
Now obviously, this kid used “chink” to you, a Chinese person, so it was definitely targeted. But it’s probably a way to make the insult connect more, as using “skank” fits better on a woman than on a man. Of course, this does not take away from the kid being a numbnut skank nigger cracka chinky dinky jap-happy nippy gooky whore, but I think you should realize that a lot of kids are just plain assholes, with little true insidious intent there. They’re just trying to score a hit on you (or more likely with their friends), and “chink” obviously did the job quite well. Most will grow past this phase (as I did).
I’d be much more concerned about that lady down the street who comments to her friend, “something must be done about those Chinese moving in to our neighborhood” than on a pre-teen saying “chink”.
Madawc - Though you went a tiny bit overboard, I think giving them a good scare was appropriate. Better for them to learn now that these actions have real consuquences in the real world than later when somebody will actually hurt them. I’m certain if I were the 12-year-old in question and I went running back to my mother or father with the story, I’d get the response “Very good. Lesson learned. Don’t call anyone a chink, unless you want to get into a fight.” I don’t think 12-year-olds are the children most adults make them out to be.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA…please stop, stop it’s too funny, too funny…BWAHAHAHAHAHAH.
Damn right.
If my kid acted that way, it is my responsibility to administer punishment. Call me, follow him home and ring my bell, whatever, I will be sure to take action. That is MY job as a parent, not yours.
Hell, I would even be okay with you yelling at him, from afar, to shut the fuck up.
Call it the mother bear inside of me, but if you are an adult and you hit my kid in the face and chest with a gate in a fit of anger(whether or not you meant to) and then terrorized him by overpowering him enough to trip over a rock and fall down then go on to scream in his face, you can be damn sure that shit is going to happen.
Wow, are people here actually saying it’s ok to call chinese/japanese people “chink” just because “the kids don’t know any better”?
Fuck that, kids these days know very well what “chink” and “jap” and “fat nigger bitch” mean just fine.
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As I said orge this works both ways. There are 1 million chinese persons in Toronto. I’m sure there are going to be criminal elements in that group (just like any other group). Wouldn’t it be a bitch to be shot/killed/fucked up by the chinese triad?
5 kids would turn into 5 bodies really fucking fast in some cities.
Hummmm lemme see. . . . Nope, I am purdy sure no one has said that.
Depending on where this happend I’d give great odds that the kid knows exactly what this means. It’s not exactly a secret is it? Fine, sure, there are sheltered kids out there but the fact that the kid started saying he had chinese friends (as some sort of defense) means he knew what it ment and used it as an insult. Who the hell uses “chump” anyways?
So again, I condone the use of violence the OP’er admits was wrong but lets not fucking kid ourselves here ok? I really hate the “perfect angel” defense when it comes to people’s kids. Kids do shit they know is wrong just because they’re kids, it doesn’t mean we should excuse racist 12 year olds.
I still don’t see where anyone said it is okay to call someone a “chink”, kid or not.
Yikes, try some therapy. You do realize cursing and threatening people can constitute criminal assault, don’t you?
If you wanted to correct the kids, fine, but you should have done it in an adult manner. (I disagree with those who say correcting kids is the job of the parents only … but it’s because of jerks like this that that’s now the prevailing viewpoint.)
Diane, all the quotes I posted (except maybe the third quote) are excusing the child of using “chink”.
When you say “oh it’s ok that my kid called you fat, he’s just a kid” equals making it ok for your kids to use the term “fat” in a negative context (and we all know that’s a big no-no here). If your kid does something stupid and you don’t educate them, you’re teaching them it’s ok to do.
So unless English isn’t your first language please try to keep up.
Ah, OK, thanks for clearing that up. :rolleyes:
Rather than try to determine how this clears up the sketchiness of what you said earlier, (now the dog is responsible for him tripping?), I’ll just go ahead and repeat my earlier assertation:
Shenanigans.
I think you meant to say you don’t condone. But anyway…
As to the OP admitting what he did was wrong, well, yes he did, sorta-kinda. But in a very offhand way, and only after a long and lovingly detailed description of all the things he did to scare the shit out of the kid.
Not exactly “I shouldn’t do it because it’s wrong”, but more like “I shouldn’t do it because I might get in trouble.” Not really a model of contrition.
IMO, he just threw that line in as a sort of lame disclaimer, and probably expected people to come in and say “There there, don’t beat yourself up. The kid deserved it.”
Speaking of which…
Maybe giving them a good scare would be appropriate…yeah, in fact I reckon it would. But he went more than a tiny bit overboard. He crossed well over the line from “good scare” to “criminal assault.”
If it had been my kid, I’d have called the cops too.
Me no speaka yur langeez den cuz it shur dont looked like ita says dat to me.
Hey numbnuts, go back and read your initial posts and then tell me exactly where anyone said that actually said "it’s ok to call chinese/japanese people “chink” just because “the kids don’t know any better”?
Here’s a hint. No one did say that. You are simply taking quotes and twisting them into your own definition.
Oh please! No one, not one single person in this thread, is saying it’s okay to use racial slurs. They’re saying that it is inappropriate to react to name-calling with physical violence. Most of us learn that in kindergarten, but apparently some are a bit slower on the uptake.
My momma taut me how to spoke’d.
“. . . tell me where anyone actually said. . . .”
(I can’t believe I just did one of my worst pet peeves.)