I’ve not really dated in a while. I mean, I go out on dates (though those are fewer than they used to be), but there hasn’t been anyone serious in my life in a while.
When I say that I miss men, I don’t mean sex. Yeah, I miss sex. I miss sex a lot. But what I really miss are other things about men. Their voices - the way they seem to resonate in their chests.
Chest hair, and the way it feels sort of crinkly beneath your fingers when you touch it. The way they feel solid when you hug them, like you could hang on forever and stay there (I just don’t find women as solid feeling when you hug them).
Don’t get me wrong - I’m not someone who feels like they have to be dating someone to be a complete person. I like who I am and who I am becoming as I get older. And I’m not looking for someone to date seriously. That’ll happen when it happens or if it happens. I just miss having close guy friends around on a regular basis.
Watch “Seinfeld” much, Lsura? He had a thought on a situation like yours: “Men and women can’t be friends.” The older I get, the more true I believe this is. I have female coworkers. I have female aquaintances. I had female lovers, once upon a time.
But I have rarely, if ever, had a woman who was just “a friend,” and that’s it. I don’t think it’s impossible, and many of my peers claim to have done it. But I remain skeptical of their claims, and dubious that I can ever achieve a casual friendship with a woman myself. Too many issues.
I don’t miss women, therefore I do miss sex? I’m afraid I’m not sure what you mean, unless you interpret only the second statement literally. But that’s assuming a lot about my character, on which you really have no basis to judge.
And of course, you are also assuming women are the only means whereby one might procure sex.
Well, given that lsura is usually in the library, where they frown on such things, and **Lizard[/b is in a state of confusion, this is not too surprising.
well, Lizard, whether you meant to or not, the second part of your original quote seemed to be implying “Eh, women. Who needs 'em?”. if such a sentiment did indeed exist, and your female contacts somehow sensed it, it might go a long way to explaining why the sex fount may have dried up a bit in your territory.
and no, i obviously know better than to assume (at least on these boards) that M/F is the only coupling combination possible. but your linking of sex and women in that quote rather makes females seem the choice of preference, if you had your druthers.
Hey, some of my best friends are men - gay and straight and undeclared. (Undeclared is a lame-ass joke. Didn’t work, sorry. Can you think of a funny way to say “would be offended to be IDed by orientation”?)
Lsura how you doin? Really, though, I know what you mean. I love being single, but sometimes it would be nice to have someone to hold. (And of course, sex would be nice.)
Lsura, I’d be happy to give you a big hug and let you run your fingers through my chest hair, with or without sex, but I don’t have a library card. Will this do, for now? {{{{Lsura}}}}
You can count me as one of those: I’m sort of offended, not if you would refer to me as “straight”, but if you assumed I was straight. Except in threads about orientation, I never mention online or IRL that I am straight. Can I borrow that phrase from ya?
Well, allow me to remove all trace of innuendo by saying outright about women “eh, who needs 'em?”
You are right that I generally prefer tacos, not sausage. But my situation is more complex than simply “hostility driving women away,” and my “sex fount” has not exactly dried up. In fact, I split with the last woman I dated of my own accord. (See here.) I consider getting laid to be one of the easiest things in the world to do. But these days, I’m not willing to expend even that much effort.
I recognize that all this is not exactly logical, but human nature rarely is.
I miss men too. I have a super close male friend - but he is “just” a friend. We only hug when hugs are necessary. He’s shown up at my door with booze and hugs when I called him crying and things like that. But we don’t snuggle on the couch and I don’t really want to run my fingers through his chest hair. He’s probably the friend I’m closest to, though.
I DO want someone around who has chest hair I can run my fingers through and snuggle on the couch. I miss the sound of a male voice and that sort of thing. I wouldn’t mind having someone around to cook for sometimes. On the other hand, I don’t really want to go through the relationship stuff to have that. Well, sometimes I think I do, but. . . I dunno.
