My apologies if this has been done before…
During a conversation with a male friend today,he stated that the majority of men want to have sex with their female friends,or the “When Harry Met Sally” syndrome. His point was the lust issue is always there in some form,sometimes obvious,sometimes subtle.
Granted, it is an ego boost to think that your guy friends want you but is it really the case?
Male Dopers, your opinions? Do you secretly lust after your female friends?
yeah… for the most part its true from what I’ve experienced. I’ve had ONE good female friend that I would consider was the opposite, however, if she would have made it known she wanted. I would have. Sooo… on this side… yeah its {mostly but not always} true.
I have to take exception to what I’ve just said however… I have several female work friends that I talk to and joke with everyday that I wouldnt consider. However they are for the most part MUCH older, mother like and matronly…
Secretly? 
I have female friends that I wouldn’t mind jumping into bed with, if they offered. Not all of them, just a few.
I can’t really think of a female friend that I’d turn down if she offered… On the other hand, it’s not so much my ‘wanting’ them as knowing they’re attractive, and, y’know, it’d be…fun. ::Ahem::
I’m not sure that made a whole lot of sense, but I can’t mak it clearer right now…
Well, I don’t secretly lust after my female friends, but if they were to offer and I were single I doubt I’d say no. Only some of them, though. There are some that I’m just not attracted to.
Not always. I have female friends that I’m not lusting after.
But if they ripped open their shirt and bear hugged your neck??
There are a few women I know who I wouldn’t jump into bed with at the drop of a hat.
Most of them, however… 
-Ben
If you knew the depths of depravity that lurk in the male mind, you would run screaming from the very sight of us.
Do we fantasize about our female friends? Yes, absolutely we do…constantly…and in great detail. Any man who says different is a stinking liar or a eunuch.
At the risk of being hopelessly bizarre, I don’t really think that would change my opinion. There are just some women I’m attracted to and some that I’m not. I have friends in both groups.
Real life is never that simple, of course. Things like this can change with time, or for a hundred other reasons. But the question was whether guys always lust after their female friends. For me, the answer’s no.
(thinking of all female friends, past & present)
Probably about 30-40% of them.
Interestingly, one of my worst lust-crushes was with a gal who was strictly lesbian. The funny thing is, when we first met we didn’t like each other at all. Got to know each other and got real tight real fast. I respected her as a Dyke (her label, not mine) too much to attempt the “try it, you might like it” routine…but I’ve always wondered…[wave of bittersweet erotic nostalgia]
…hmmmm…gotta go…[/wave of bittersweet erotic nostalgia]
I have never ever not in my entire life wanted to have sex with my friends who are girls. Not even if they were famous, offered me a trillion dollars, granted me super powers, or any of that jazz. My friends who are girls are destined to remain that, just friends.
HUGS!
Sqrl
Hell, we’d have sex with 98 percent of the women walking down the street.
Seriously though. Speaking personally, I definitely think about what my female friends would be like in the sack, even though with many of them, even ones which I have considered in this light, if the opportunity actually did come up I would hesitate to take it.
And then, of course, there are the gals that I do in fact secretly lust after. Sometimes the lines blur. I think it’s all in good fun, just in a ‘what-if’ kind of mindset. I just think lots of times guys confuse platonic and romantic intimacy, or at least have trouble making clear distinctions there. And for any women reading this and fearing for their honor, it doesn’t mean that we’re constantly looking around mentally undressing every chick we see. Well, I’m sure some guys do that (hello, JonScribe ;)), but you’re safe with the majority of us.
When me and this friend had this conversation, I had brought up my friend Brian. We’ve been best friends for four years now and there has not been the slightest hint of sexual attracion on both our parts.
Granted I do I have some guy friends that if the chance arose…I’d be on them like white on rice but the majority of them are just,IMO,friends.I don’t imagine them naked or wonder how they’d be in bed at all.
Well, therein lies the difference between you gals and us pigdogs. I have come up with a theory about this matter.
You know that thing they talk about, how after sex, women get this hormone released that runs around inside them yelling “Keep this guy! Love him! Make him stay! [sub][sup]Let’s do that again![/sup][/sub]” Well, I think guys have that same thing, except it’s running through our veins all day every day, and it advocates with pretty much equal impact on the part of every woman we see or know. So, we have that same hormone thingy, we just live on a constant diet of it, whereas y’all get it released all at once, and solely in specific contexts.
(To put it in technical terms.)
OK, I’ll be serious. :grumble:
I think White Lightning pretty much has it down. We almost universally have some “naughty thoughts” about our female friends, but most of us would not act on those thoughts if the opportunity presented itself.
So don’t worry, ladies. We may be a bunch of little horny monkeys, but at least we’re housebroken.
I don’t have female friends, so maybe I shouldn’t even be posting here, but …
I think a distinction needs to be made between “want to have sex with” and “wouldn’t mind having sex with”.
Yeah. I’ll second that.
In a paraell universe where the situation of our meeting was different, but our personalities the same, I could be very happy in a romantic/sexual relationship with many of my platonic female friends.
If they suddenly knocked on my door, tore of their shirts and yelled, “I must have you!”, then that wuld be an odd situation for me. I’m simple not attracted to soem of them, and, as corny as it sounds, do value platonic friendship more than potential sex for some others. Ultimately, I’d probably end up with a slight majority of them. Less if I thought the next chance of getting some would be some coming.
But women I actively lust after (as opposed to subconcious fantasies and hypothetical situations) and with whom I maintain a platonic friendship? Exceedingly rare.
~Menocchio
Heh…duh!
Ditto, and for the same underlying reasons…
jayjay