My mom died on July 13, 2013. My stepfather kept me away from the house for a month, I was giving him room to grieve. When he did call me up there he had emptied the house of almost everything my mother had owned, and refused to give me anything of hers other than some children’s books. I know that most of her things were given to his friends at the church he goes to. He has since then refused to talk to me, as has everyone at the church he goes to. I have never seen a will, he said that my mother gave him everything to do with as he wished, which I know is not true, but he told me if I had wanted anything I should have brought up a notebook and had mom sign off on anything she wanted me to have. Well, mom told me often over the years what was supposed to go to whom, so . . .
To have the man who I had called dad for 35 years to turn on me in this way has just blown my fucking mind. That he would up and shun my children and rob them of what their grandmother wanted them to have, well, I am brokenhearted and livid, depending on the moment you might ask me.
My aunt and cousin, who are far more knowledgeable with this sort of thing did some digging and there is no will posted anywhere. They say I have a right to see her will, and if she died intestate, which is a possibility considering the circumstances, then what do I do? Did I grieve for too long before being able to address it and too bad?
I apologise for my poor writing, I am still emotionally raw over this, and I don’t want to spend the night crying. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks for listening to my issue.