I pit my Boss and his friend.

The BBQ Pit
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How to piss me off, in three easy steps.

One. Employ me for eleven years. Promise me a big promotion to the top of the company in the next six months.

Two. Hire one of your football buddies. Give him the post you promised me. Doesnt matter that he’s completly unqualified. He’s your buddy! Give him a job!

Three. Tell me that your friend, who has been working here for three months, is now my boss.Whatever he tells me to do, I gotta do.

To me, I can’t think of anything to do except walk out, which I’ll be doing now in a week or two. It’s hard to leave a job you’ve had since you were fourteen; then again, there’s only so much shit a man can take.

Looking at the title of this thread, I really dont think I should pit my bosses buddy; He’s not such a bad guy, and I get on well with him. He seems awkward and apologetic around me, so its hard to hate him. But still, he’s doing the job I was promised, so into the pit he goes…

I Hope when I leave that stinking run down fuckhole it nosesdives out of business and the two cunts that shafted me go on welfare for the rest of their fucking lives.

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That does indeed suck. From personal experience, it can be difficult to avoid favoritism or accusations of it without excluding any personal aquaintances from the workplace. But what happened to you is completely over-the-top and unacceptable. It boggles the mind how blatant some people are about not caring how well a job gets done.

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The guy who gave the job to his football buddy - is there no way to go over his head?

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Four. Find a new job. Explain to old boss why- nicely. Say that you are “so *sorry * to have to do this…”
I found great results on Monster- not finding, but posting my resume and getting many responses.

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My sympathies. I was employed with a company for ten years when they closed up to move to a different state. When I declined to go, they offered me the position of assistant plant manager; like an idiot, I took them at their word (nothing in writing.) When I got to the new location (at a bit of expense to myself), I found out that the position was already filled before I was even given the offer and, of course, the raise I was given was half of what I was expecting for the promised position. I found out my wife was pregnant before I walked, so I stayed for the insurance, but I didn’t forget their treatment of me and my fellow transplants.
I feel your pain and suggest that the best thing to do would be to get the hell out as soon as possible.

Good Luck and Peace to you - DESK

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Don’t burn the bridge too much. It’ll be hard to get a new gig if the only job on your resume says you went psycho.

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I agree. If your company has competitors (not sure of your line of work, though) and you’re really good at what you do, invest in a killer resume and contact those competitors. Play up how you have X years of experience and can offer X, Y and Z like no other widget manager can. Of course, that’s not the only method you should employ to job-hunt, but it has the potential to net you a good job quickly.

The minute you get a better offer, put on your walkin’ boots. But let me put my HR manager hat on (I really am one…):

Don’t burn bridges - I’m sure you know that already. As satisfying as it would be to thumb your nose at Sir Asshat on the way out and put vaseline on the doorknob of his office, make it impossible for them to say anything negative about you.

Example: “I appreciate the X years of experience at ABC Company and have enjoyed my tenure here. However, I’ve accepted a new position which will no doubt present new opportunities and challenges. I thank you for your tutelage in my time here and wish you all the best. My last day will be the 15th. Regards, bubastis”

Make it as cool and professional as all heck and then move on to your new job. Then let them reap the benefits of cronyism. :rolleyes:

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The firm I work for is run by two brothers.
Brother A, the guy who made all the promises and shafted me, lets call him Barnes.
Brother B, a guy who is like a father to me, lets call him Elias.

Elias knows I’m getting the shaft. but theres not much he can do, because he has no more say than Barnes. I wish he’d stuck up for me more in the beginning; there really is nothing he can do now. In the end, all I can do is walk. Save myself a little bit of dignity.

Its hard; I’ve been working with these guys my whole life. Barnes always was an asshole, but he always was fair. I never thought he’d go so low. Allow me to tell you the full story:

Last year, I was headhunted by another firm, a job that promised better wages, better conditions, and better prospects. I took it.

When I handed in my notice, thats when Barnes offered me the bog promotion, to entice me to stay. Elias, well, he looked like he’d been shot when I told him I was leaving. I stayed, out of loyalty to Elias, but that promotion sure was sweet.

Six months later… the arse fell out of the bag.

Maybe Barnes just decided I wasnt as good as he thought.
Maybe he took on this new guy because I wasnt good enough.
Or maybe, just maybe, he knew all along he was going to shaft me, but didnt want me to leave because I know my current job so well, and he needed me to do that. I really do kick ass at my current job.

So now, I have to leave the family. I’m not going to burn any bridges; I certainly dont want to fall out with Elias. Thats why I’m ripping the shit out of Barnes here in the pit. Ah, sweet pit. How great it is to have a forum where you can rant about a DOUBLE CROSSING COCKSUCKING SON OF A CUNT!!!

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Humm, let’s see:

Lay around on the beach in the summer, go to mailbox, cash check.
Ski all winter, go to mailbox, cash check.
Repeat for rest of fucking life.

Can I shaft you too, please! :smiley:

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I worked at a small mortgage bank whose president was on some sort of mental medication. He would go for weeks being a decent guy, but there were numerous times he just screamed and cussed at this one buddy/employee of his. I have no idea why this guy took it. I understand that his family needed money, but there just has to be another position out there for someone who has 20 years experience in the loan business.

He didn’t start looking until he was fired for the (whatever)th time. But this time, everyone had been transferred over to another company with actual policies, and the boss couldn’t unfire him the next day after some meds and a drink. I wish the guy had started looking before and saved himself a lot of crap.

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Be careful not to attack Barnes from behind before you leave… you might end up with a scar on your cheek…

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Was anyone else thinking the name of the second brother would be “Noble”?

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Or he is unsure about you because you had accepted another job along the way, and he thinks he can count on his buddy to stick around indefinitely. If he had felt betrayed at that time and enticed you to stay because he was scared, maybe he got past that and feels comfortable putting a crony in there.

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No, trust me. The guys a jerk. Any jerk-like, arrogant tendencies I may have, I picked them all up from him.

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People have discussed taking a different job, then getting lured back to the old job with promises of more money, etc. here in the past, and they have always said that it was a bad idea, and I think your story is illustrating why, bubastis. I’m sorry it’s gone that way, but it’s probably time for you to move on, anyway. Time to get out of your comfortable old rut and see more of what’s out there. Viva l’unemployment!

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[hijack]

I am in no way arguing with you, silver1, because you’re absolutely correct, but I must ask: Why is it always the employee’s job to be the better man after he gets shafted by his company? Why would you say, “Thank you, it was nice meeting you.” after I just punched you in the nose (hypothetically, of course :D)? Employers know they can get away with it because no matter how much they shit on their employees, most employees come back with, “Thank you, sir!” The rest walk off or quit their jobs with no notice, and the employer wonders why.

Would someone kindly explain to me why you wouldn’t be able to leave a company that treats you poorly, but leave in a professional manner with an explanation on what they did wrong? For example:

“While I mostly enjoyed my ten years of employment with ABC Widget Co., I feel that it is time for me to move on. My decision is based on the fact that I was passed over for a promised promotion for someone who has (in my opinion) less experience and less time in the company. Thank you for ten years and good luck.”

Anything wrong with this?

Adam

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The only thing “wrong” with it is that is sounds bitter and angry, which is what the person writing it is. I guess the concern is that if you write a bitter, angry resignation letter, you might not get a good reference from the company, or they might not hire you back at some point in the future if you want to work for them again. Looking at this, both of those aren’t big risks any more, since companies don’t seem to be legally able to give anyone a bad reference, and a letter like that is not all that bad, just honest.

So, in closing, go ahead, write honest resignation letters. Get it all off your chest and move on. What a liberating thought - telling your boss exactly why you’re quitting.

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[QUOTE=Agent Foxtrot Why is it always the employee’s job to be the better man after he gets shafted by his company?
Would someone kindly explain to me why you wouldn’t be able to leave a company that treats you poorly, but leave in a professional manner with an explanation on what they did wrong? ]

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Because- oddly enough :eek: - EmployERs tend to side with other EmployERs over EmployEEs. Thus, saying bad things about your EX-employer to your potential new employer will have them look at your with a jaundiced eye. OTOH, you can do the usual gossip thing around the water-cooler with how bad it was to work for XXXX, and the news will spread. (There’s also a website devoted to this out there somewhere, right?)

The employEE must be “the better man” as we are in a EmployERs market right now. Just the facts.

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I think I should start a public awareness campaign in Calgary - we are definitely NOT in an employer’s market here, but people are still acting like we are. You know that thing about 100 people lined up to take the job if you don’t? Not happening here. Employer’s can not get enough employees here. We can’t be the only place that is experiencing this, either.

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Alright, who snuck that extra apostrophe in while I wasn’t looking?