If my boyfriend got his ex-girlfriend a wonderful gift and me nothing, I would not be complaining to you guys here about it - I would be too busy having a long discussion with him about how to treat me, and possibly looking for a new boyfriend.
nongoog, talk to the dude.
And come back and babysit your thread. We don’t like it when people start threads asking for advice and then abandon them.
Posts by guests that evolve like this smell trollish to me. YMMV.
I read that and thought, "Damn, did she say she was getting Fs or something?
And then I realized what it meant.
More of a slow study, really.
He wouldn’t need an actual girlfriend to have a mistress, really. Someone gives him blowjobs and goes home. And goes to dinner sometimes and stays over sometimes. In between, he has his life.
Yeah, I wonder about some things.
nongoog, does he listen when you talk about your job? About how your day went in general? Does he know your friends’ names? Do each of you know what TV shows the other likes? Have you ever been to a movie together? Have you ever shown up to have him say “I got some of your favorite junk food”? Do you know the name of where he works (not just the nature of his job), where he went to college, what his upbringing was like? If you got mugged, would he be the person you called from the police station/hospital to come get you?
If yes, then you have a good relationship. If not, you don’t have a relationship at all.
I just skimmed the OP, but even I was able to read: " you are a rich manhattan bachelor. "
The OP may be a delusional idiot, but situations like that happen all the time.
I think that got lost in the drivel. I’m not buyin the story though. Not for a penny.
This chick, if she really is a chick, is either pulling everyone’s leg or is the stupidest girl on earth.
Even if she is “mistress” and not “girlfriend” five night a week mistresses still get gifts at Christmastime. Unless perhaps their sugar daddies are Jewish. Even a hooker you see five nights a week gets the big bunch of McDonald’s gift certificates - twice as many as you give the mailman and the neighbor that waters your plants when you are out of town.
Question: Does his administrative assisant like you? Quite possible she is wearing your silk scarf or earrings - which she was supposed to send to you.
Gotta agree with you.
I kinda-sorta have to agree that there seems to be reality disconnect here. As a sometimes dating single guy I’m well aware of how much evenings out can cost… If he’s really (per her description) picking up the tab for dinners in NY, he’s (presumably) spent hundreds and hundreds (if not thousands) of dollars on food end entertainment over the course of a year for their evenings together in Manhattan.
Assuming you’re a normal well off, non-stingy bachelor who’s comfortable spending money on your girlfriend/fuck-buddy whatever, you don’t “forget” to give a Christmas present to a woman who’s giving you back rubs and blow jobs. it just does_not_happen unless there’s some sort of really fundamental misunderstanding about what Christmas expectations are, or the nature of the relationship.
Assuming there’s a good faith attempt to ask a question here, the only possibility I can see is that he has a present stashed away, and is/was waiting to exchange presents with her when she brings hers. If she never made that overture he may think she’s too poor to give a present, and is avoiding the whole subject entirely so as not to embarrass her. It’s not much, but that’s the real world scenario that makes any sense to me.
Sweetheart, quit complaining on this board to people who are not involved in your relationship with your boyfriend, and ask your boyfriend why he did not buy you anything for Christmas.
Where is the OP? Did she abandon the thread? Man, I hate that.
Oy gevalt, did I read that wrong! :smack:
At first I thought you were saying that Jewish men are too cheap to buy presents for their mistresses…then I was thinking “Huh? I’ve never heard anything like that from Dangerosa before!? What the heck??” And then I was thinking “Is there any other way that she possibly could have meant that?”
And only then I realized that Jewish people usually get HANUKKAH presents for people! :smack: :smack: :smack:
It was like one of those tricky jokes that ends up with “and where were the survivors buried!”
Me too.
Since she’s a guest, I’m wondering if she didn’t realize the nature of Pit threads. Maybe she thought that Pit threads were just ones where people complain in hyperbole and then other people support you like in MPSIMS. When I checked yesterday, her last post was in this thread.
nongoog. . . come back! If you meant to put this thread in MPSIMS, let us know. Having said that though, I’m not sure you would have gotten too much of a different response in MPSIMS, but at least we would know your intention. If this is all a whoosh!, that would be good to know too.
Ditto.
Give her a couple of days. It’s the weekend; maybe she hasn’t had internet access for awhile. Hard as it is to imagine, not everyone is on The Dope 24/7. 
Or maybe she’ll still having The Talk with the boyfriend that she was being urged to have, or dealing with its aftermath.
But yes, I too definitely want to read the next chapter.
OK, no rush. . . . :::tapping fingers on desk::: 
In another couple days, it will have been 4 days since her last post.
4 days without Dope access?!! (SDMB, that is) Unfathomable!!
Offtopic: Thudlow Boink, I’m enjoying your posts that I’ve read around the message board. Thanks for posting them.
I may be confused but I thought the OP’s story about a first date in mountak reminded me about another thread where someone was talking about dates three hours from the city and Martha’s vineyard. I can’t find anything doing a search.
Also the OP says her boyfriend is a fisherman I don’t know how many fishermen live in Manhatten unless thats not what he does for a living.
:: blush ::
I assumed what was meant was that he fished recreationally, not careerwise. Although I imagine a good Pythonesque sketch could be written about a fisherman who works from his downtown Manhattan office building.
Actually wasn’t that scenario in the first season of “Sex in the City” with Sarah Jessica Parker not getting something from Mr. Big?
When my now-finacee and I started dating, it was autumn and we were both skint. It was arly enough in the relationship that neither one of us were sure how to incorporate the ohter into family functions etc. (She hadn’t even met my mom yet) So as Christmas was fast apporaching, I asked outright: “So…How would you like to celebrate Christmas this year?” and then that opened the door to a frank discussion about whether or not we would exchanging gifts, when we’d see each other, and how we would go about family obligations.
Really you have to be clear with your needs and expectations, otherwise you’ll end up in a kerfuffle.
The holiday that always strikes me as awkward with a new relationship is Valentine’s Day. Then you’re stuck thinking, are we “just dating” and a gift would be considered presumptuous? Are we “going steady” enough for a nice dinner out to be about right? Does she think Valentine’s Day is totally cheesy and wish the Hallmark holiday didn’t exist?
I usually just ask flat out “So… do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Is there anything special you would like?”