What’s up with the Southside, too? I was thinking she was up in Roger’s Park or something.
Shit, if you can’t find something cheap in Aurora, of all places, try Elgin or Joilet or Oswego. Sheesh, Naperville isn’t that hard to commute to.
One question. If this was just about not putting the picture on the fridge, why did the landlord cover up the face with the magnet the first (few?) time(s)? If this was simply about “Don’t put pictures on my fridge” she would have taken it down and talked to the OP about it. The fact that she did the P/A tact of covering it up before she took it down and threw it in the OPs room tells me this was about more than just decorating the fridge.
Maybe the sister is really ugly.
It’s not impossible that both parties are wrong.
Rachel was wrong for assuming she could decorate an appliance that doesn’t belong to her.
The landlord was passive-aggressive for not saying why she didn’t want the picture up there in the first place.
I think the landlord could have easily cut this thing in the bud by being upfront from jump-street. HOWEVER, it sounds like this isn’t the first time Rachel has overestimated her rights as a tenant (using the word “roommate” in the OP points to this) So maybe the landlord was kind of tired about having to “correct” her again and chose a more passive-aggressive form of communication. It’s immature, but understandable, I think. If someone were to decorate my refrigerator with a picture and I didn’t want it there, I would struggle with how to communicate this without seeming mean. Of course, I probably would just live and let live (it’s just a freakin’ picture!), but some people just aren’t that type.
I might have missed it, but is this the OP’s first time living on her own? That alone could explain everything. When you’re used to living at “home”, you just assume everything in the house belongs to you. I could imagine how easy it would be to carry that assumption to a new house if it wasn’t laid out explicitly that “this” house doesn’t work that way.
(When one of my sisters was a live-in landlord, she had multipe tenants and I’m sure she wouldn’t have had a problem with people putting up pics on the fridge. Of course, they were all around the same age, so she tended to treat them like friends rather than tenants. I think that’s the difference here. The landlord and the OP are not friends.)
I still think you, Rachel, should consider living alone. There has to be a studio/efficiency in your price bracket not too far away. Living alone is a million times better than sharing space, IMHO. And living amongst black people and Hispanics is not going to kill you. You might gasp! get to know some of them and actually like them. If anything else, it would be an experience.
Ok, now you’re just talking crazy talk.
It’s messed up that she’s willing to live with–and even fight!–the spawn of Satan, but is too afraid to “slum” with black and brown people. Because she’s a white girl, and apparently we’re all just supposed to understand that she’d naturally be afraid. And not take offense.
But that’s not the crazy part. The crazy part is that she then goes to the “White Privilege” thread and lists all the ways white people are privileged, in a self-righteousy way. I can’t be the only person who noticed this, am I?
It’s different for white people!
ok, wait, i missed this on my first read. you seriously responded by calling another poster an elephant(when she was being reasonable, but saying something you clearly didn’t want to hear) when you yourself have a BMI of around 50? people who live in fat houses shouldn’t throw cheeseburgers.
also, i’m sure some of rachel’s best friends are black!
And fat. Fat black people.
Are you kidding me? Her Myspace clearly says “no fatties!!! lololol”.
Some of you otherwise awesome dopers never fail to impress me with your ability to think zebra before horse. Speaking of horses, I’m pretty sure this one is dead if you get my hint.
The young, immature, inexperienced, will always use their own insecurities to manifest mountains out of molehills, imagining some ‘disrespectful’ slight, where none exists. And some people just love drama.
Seriously what could be funnier than ‘it’s on’ over a fridge photo? ‘umadbro’ comes close, it’s true. “I won’t be treated this way!” is the very first protest of the newly formed adult.
Come back when more mature.
I read this entire thread and thought that I had thoroughly wasted my time until
and
gave me two solid LOLs… Bravo… Bravo…
As for the OP… You are not as completely wrong as some posters like to write… but really a tiff over a picture on a fridge is not something someone should get worked up about… smoke some grass, shot some smack… do what ever it is you need to ease your nerves… but at the end of the day I hope that you can realize that this is a non issue and should have ended with a polite conversation…
FWIW you did the right thing by venting you frustrations here and keeping your cool IRL…
Are you fucking retarded? Seriously. Because I don’t see any other way that you could have gotten this far through the thread and *still *not understand that this woman is *not *your roommate, and you are not hers. She is your landlord. You are her tenant.
Did the roommate attach a follow-up note that was the dictionary definitions for “your” and “you’re”? 
1.) She’s not a teenager fresh out of the home. She’s in her mid-20s. You can only keep making excuses for people for so long.
2.) She *doesn’t *get why she was wrong (see: *still *referring to her landlord as though they were on equal footing in terms of ownership and rights).
rachelellogram’s last SDMB post was on December 30 so it might make sense to forget about this thread.
You offed her, didn’t you?
Why? Are you saying her landlord has her down in a hole in the basement and is out buying a case of Skin So Soft?
She’ll be back, I’m sure. This thread sure went crazy!
I want to know why she’s not allowed to call someone fat just because she’s really fat. Lots of people consider me way too thin, that doesn’t mean I can’t see when someone else is too thin and think it’s ugly myself.
I certainly did not “off” her but perhaps someone else did. Perhaps you did and are cleverly making accusations to divert attention away from yourself.
Skin So Soft?
Calling someone an “elephant”, when you have a BMI of 50, is not the same as you simply picking out another fat person and saying “You are fat”.
Also, it was just mean. This thread isn’t about fat people, and Diosa, IIRC, was actually being kind of nice to her. Or at least not being mean.
There’s nothing wrong at all for someone to judge someone as ugly as long as they keey their yap shut. As soon as you start insulting someone, you become fair game.