I don’t get to say this often, but I 100% agree with Starving Artist. Here, man - have a sandwich, you’re skin and bones. Just … don’t eat it in your own bedroom, kthxbye.
Oh Jaysus, BigTard. Taking advice from you about ANYTHING other than how to stay at home with your parents and get overly invested in a messageboard is worthless beyond measure so you’ll pardon me if I don’t give a shit what you think.
Constantly make a big deal out of little things? Rachel’s existence causes me ire? Holding grudges? I rarely post in the Pit so I’m going to assume this is something mental with you (shocking!) and let you work that out on your own. But here’s a free tip: THIS IS THE PIT. As much as you like to hang out here and cry that people are MEAN MEAN MEAN, when someone posts something ridiculous and pretends to be the righteous victim sometimes they get called on it.
The OP has posted a shit-ton of her problems on this board (no wonder you’re a kindred spirit) and then makes a huge deal about this? She’s broke, has a job that doesn’t pay her enough to live, health issues, can’t pay her student loans for her education she didn’t finish, is contemplating calling out her father for being an evil fucktard to her, and has terrible credit on her way into her late 20s and this is the battle she won’t give up on? Why, she’d rather die!
Still, with all of the other people telling her to give it up and get over it I am honored you decided to point your butter-knife-dull wit my way and honor me with one of your whiny comments.
Now, piss off.
To be fair, both cities I have lived in (different parts of the country) have had application fees for apartments. Now, I haven’t lived in an apartment for several years now so it could have changed.
Those fees are very common in Southern California. They call them everything from app fees to credit check fees.
In reality Rachel, they are looking for people with unlawful detainer actions and suits from landlords, etc. They could care less if you’re a little late on your wireless bill.
Detroit area for me. When I was looking for an apartment last summer, nearly every place that advertised required an application fee. The thing is, you know whether or not you want to rent a place after looking at it, and you’ve also talked to the management company about income requirements or other things which would disallow you from renting from them. So yes, application fees are very real, but usually a formality after you already know that you’ll be signing a lease. And even then the fee is deducted from the security deposit.
It’s a non-issue.
This is the point at which I would have said to myself, “Huh. This is pretty passive-aggressive. She might also have a problem with Sis being a lesbian. I don’t want to live with someone like that; guess I’ll start looking for someplace to move in April.” Then I would have dropped the matter entirely and quietly started apartment-shopping.
But you chose to draw a line in the sand and I can’t picture it ending well for you.
Depends. How do you define “win” here? Will you win by putting the photo on the fridge one more time than she takes it down (and getting pissed off all over again every time)? Okay, congratulations, but that’s kind of a hollow victory, don’t you think?
You need to face the fact that you’re living in someone else’s house. And if that someone says “I don’t want you putting stuff on the fridge,” whether it’s in writing or not, I don’t see the point in making waves over it.
It does sound like the fridge battle is a symptom of some larger issues. Trying to out-bitch each other is not productive in the short or long run. You’ll “win” by making the next four months as tolerable as possible, finding new living arrangements, and telling your landlord – calmly and factually – why you didn’t renew your lease as you walk out the door for the last time.
rach, I’ve grown to like you since you’ve been here. You’re intelligent and have an interesting way of expressing yourself (except for the uncharacteristic use of some text-speak (umad?) in this thread). But – and I say this out of kindness, I hope you realize – you can stand to grow up a bit. Living on your own, even if a cheap, crappy apartment is all you can afford, might help you do that.
Good luck.
You have to find out if the roommate is a bigot for certain. Put up a picture of a straight couple, or of a single person, and see if she takes action on that picture as well.
Yes. What you’re missing is rachel is retarded.
She’s also worried about being laid off, and presumably losing her income, and one might expect, her ability to continue paying rent, thus potentially forcing her to make a choice to move back in with family members…
OP, in post #13, you mention a third person in the home, also renting. Does this person have anything hanging on the refrigerator? Also: have you spoken with this third person about the issue, and gotten her take on it (as someone who’s actually there, she might be in a better position than we are to comment on “the big picture,” as it were).
rachelellogram, if you were renting out part of your house to someone else and she put up a picture on your fridge without asking, you might find it presumtuous and annoying. Maybe you’d do a better job of dealing with it than she has (like just asking her not to, or saying she should ask next time), but it’s not your house and you don’t have some kind of right to treat it like it is. I’d be annoyed if my roommate/landlady didn’t communicate with me about something like this, but it doesn’t invalidate the issue, and the fact that you’ve jumped to these extraneous conclusions about her is not going to help you resolve this conflict.
Now that I think about it, I’m not so sure I haven’t had them in the past, too. But it’s always some really negligible amount, and like others have said, by the time you’re paying the fee for the credit check or whathaveyou, you’re pretty much a lock for the apartment unless it turns out you have, in fact, been lying about (or at least covering up) your past renting history.
I wouldn’t call that text-speak. “lolumadbro” is pretty classic internet/gamer mocking.
On the plus side, I think I’m finally convinced that she’s not a **Morella **sock.
I just snorted hot tea out my nose.
I hope you’re happy.
As someone who very recently went through a lot of taking a landlord to court drama I can tell you there is a good chance you won’t get shit from a judge. Or you might win a case but it will probably take a year or so of your time to deal with and probably isn’t worth it. Read my threads about my landlord issues before you decide yours is so horrible and you might find that a simple picture on the fridge issue is not that big of a deal. While it surely sucks that she doesn’t want you to put up a picture it could be much, much, much, much worse.
What if Jerry Lewis heard you talking like that?
MeanOldLaaaaaaaady!!
Yes.
You’re right; I should have referred to her as “fucking retarded,” but I thought that might have been offensive, or too harsh.
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Win. So full of win.
Um, yes? itardbro? No, wait. No.
Then it would be on like tron?
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