What I said was you haven’t communicated., not that she hasn’t verbally told you things.
As to why she’s silent on this thing, when she’s been verbal with other complaints, I don’t know. It is possible that she’s simply gotten to the point where she’s not wanting to bring it up in person any longer. I don’t know her, but it sounds as if you are assuming an awful lot based upon her silence.
There is an obvious personality clash or underlying issue here. If she was that snotty about little things in the past, then this is just a continuation of that. It doesn’t sound as if you two have ever really talked. And I don’t mean her saying “close the shower curtain”. I mean deep down talked about the real issue, or issues between you two. You’re totally within your rights to hate her and hate this situation of course, but you are making an assumption that her actions are because she’s bigoted. Who knows, she may be, but it’s just as possible that she had you sign the lease, and then realized “hey, wait a minute, I’m not really all that fond of this person, I’m uncomfortable with them here” and she’s just too immature to figure out how to get out of it in an intelligent way. Hence the need to actually have a real clearing of the air. That’s what I meant by communicate.
The point it, making this a huge battle may or may not be the right thing to do, but it’s not going to be the logical or intelligent thing to do, and it could end badly for you. Hopefully this weekend you can both sit down and hash things out. Best of luck.
Huh. I rent out rooms in my house and I am very clear in the lease that they are renting a ROOM. They have access and usage to the rest of the house (obviously), but everything is explicity stated that they are renting rooms, not my whole house.
And that’s the thing: I have great relationships with my roommates and everything is lovely (I have a very low turn over of folks, too, so it can’t be that bad), but I would be pissed off if they went around messing with my shit in the rest of the house that isn’t theirs. Yes, use the kitchen, but don’t fuck with my shit. Well, that sounds more harsh than I intend-- by all means, use some stuff in the kitchen I have that you don’t, watch the big living room TV, play my Wii- that’s fine, just leave my shit how you found it. That’s bomb for you that you’ve got Christmas cards, but they go in your room, not in the rest of my house. Just like you wouldn’t like if I went and decorated your room with my Christmas cards, I don’t appreciate you decorating my rooms with your Christmas cards.
That’s the key: you have one room and it is yours, the rest are hers. That’s why you’re renting a room and not a house.
If you acted like a big ol’ bitch and kept dirtying up my house with your crap, we would have a problem indeed. Granted, I wouldn’t do shit like cover your sister’s face, but I’d probably mention it to you politely once (“Oh, hey! You seem to have left your cards downstairs! I’d hate for the house keeper to accidentally toss them, so here you go!”) , but yeah.
Heh…my credit is dreadful thanks to the fact that I’m a homeowner, have a car payment and some credit cards, and it’s got my debt to income (or income to debt, whatever) in a pretty bad spot percentage wise. I don’t think they expect a stellar credit rating at apartment complexes, because when I moved from Alaska and had to find a place, they rented to me sight unseen based on my credit check. Sometimes, no low or no credit is looked at as worse than a fair or middling credit rating.
A way to find out is to apply for credit somewhere, you get a free credit check. Or you can do the freecrditreport.com thing, but keep a SHARP eye on it, they automatically sign you up and charge you 15 bucks a month after your free 3 months or whatever, and it’s like pulling hens’ teeth to get out of too.
To eleventyfirst most of the advice here it’s probably best to ignore it and sounds like a veritable straw/camel deal. That said I am absolutely a horrible person as the complaints and drama arising out of failure to take this advice makes me smile.
rachelellogram, I think you have a misguided sense of entitlement. The world is not fair. The house belongs to your landlord. I don’t care if your lease was etched in granite by the Almighty Himself… she’s going to get her way in the end because it’s her house.
Yes, she can throw your stuff out on the street and change the locks. Yes you can take her to court, but can you afford to give up that time and money? Lawyers fees and court costs will probably amount to more than your aggregate rent until April.
How would you feel if she posted a picture of herself naked on the fridge? Would you be okay with it?
I keep thinking that just maybe its one of those situations where the slippery picture can’t quite be held up properly by the crappy fridge magnet and the damn thing keeps falling off. So, the homeowner keeps putting it back up carelessly and finally just innocently tosses it the OP’s room because she is tired of it constantly falling off…
To clarify a bit, they didn’t try to be sneaky or deny my right to stop service like I’ve heard some others complain about other types of services here, and they do provide an actual service, but the phone call was ridiculously long and annoying. And whiny on their part too! “but whyyyeeee don’t you want us anymore…but what if we offer this? or That? you’ll be sooorreeeeeeeeee”
That’s not even analogous. It’s more like: how would you feel if she went into your bedroom and stuck a picture of her family up? You’d just leave it, because after all, that’s what good roomies do, yes?
I’m glad I’m not the only one that was thinking this.
I also think you might be a touch naive Rachel, if you think the laws of your jurisdiction will protect you from petty vindictiveness. Really - if your landlady decides to take the picture and shred it what are you going to do? If you start messing with her stuff she can probably get you out in 72 hours and then Bye-bye cheap rent, hello Living with mom.
Sure it’s analogous. The OP was implying that her roommate/landlord doesn’t like the picture because she’s homophobic. Barring some misunderstanding like billfish678 suggested, the picture is obviously offensive to her roommate/landlord. I was just trying to put the OP in her shoes.
I don’t know if it’s obviously the case that the content of the photo was offensive to the landlord- like I said, for me, the mere existence of it in my portion of the home would be bothersome (idk if I’d go so far as to say offensive, though).
You wanna know how to get your roomate? She pulls a knife, you pull a gun. She sends one of yours to the hospital, you send one of hers to the morgue. That’s the roomate way.
You know what I can’t believe? That’s you’re paying fucking $450/month for this place. Either cost of living truly is obscene wherever you are (somewhere around Chicago, it sounds like), or you are truly *terrible *at apartment-hunting. I know you’re theoretically stuck in the current place until April, but I would suggest that you start asking around the board to see if anybody can suggest a better option: neighborhoods, companies, even specific buildings. We have a *lot *of Chicago-area Dopers, so I bet there would be plenty of people who can suggest areas that are cheap but still pretty safe.
