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I understand people think the thing with my Aunt was weird. It’s not like people were jerking off around me, they were just conversations and she was just answering my questions. She had pictures of naked guys around her bedroom but she would cover up the naughty bits for when I came over. Once I started getting older she became less careful about the things she said–she kept me shielded until I was 13 from all things sexual, and once I was 13 was willing to do things like play Madonna’s ‘‘Erotica’’ album in the car while I was there.
It’s not entirely accurate that the gay porn was her idea. When I was 16 she had a gay porn magazine and while we were having a party at her house. My high school friends were at the party, teasing me for being such a prude. One of them jumped me when I came out of the bathroom and screamed, ‘‘LOOK! IT’S A PENIS!!!’’ while waving it in my face. At first I screamed and turned away… then I grabbed it and said, ‘‘Wait, lemme see that again…’’ I wanted to know what they looked like when they weren’t erect so she busted out Madonna’s ‘‘SEX’’ book to show me. Her intent was educational, not sexual. I realize her education was rather unconventional, but it’s a positive force in my life and my sexuality, perhaps the only positive force I have… so I’d appreciate at least the consideration that this was something healthy and not creepy.
If people still feel it was inappropriate, I can’t say I’m surprised… a lot of people do. But I love her and she is one of the few persons in this family who has loved me unconditionally, who took me into her home when I had nowhere else to go and who helped me so much in getting through these painful years. I think of her influence as 100% positive and I probably always will.
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It sounds a lot less inappropriate when explained in context. That’s what I mean about the other post sounding more artificial. It sounded unrealistic in a way that this one doesn’t. My impression from the other post was that your aunt’s house was like a constantly running episode of Sex and the City with your aunt and her friends perpetually (and unrealistically) obsessed with never-ending conversations about sex which resulted in overly healthy and positive responses from you. I never would have called bullshit on this thread (by itself), but if I had seen the other one first, I would have thought it had some unbelievable or at least exaggerated elements to it. I guess that would be in keeping with what some people are saying about abuse victims, though.